The dating scene can be a tricky one, especially coming from a university that doesn’t really have one at all. However, for those invested in finding that special someone or currently in the dating game, #HCPepperdine has the scoop on the do’s and don’t’s of dating with the help of one of my best guy friends.
1. Talking about yourself
– Do give the guy something to work with
Girls, give the guy some insight into what makes you, you. This means talking about your likes and dislikes, your favorite songs, hobbies, etc.
– Don’t talk about your previous ex’s
This is a no brainer because nobody wants to hear about their potential S.O. talking about their previous romantic escapades.
2. Kissing for the first time
– Do follow the guy’s lead
Unless you are very experienced and comfortable, don’t be afraid to let the guy take the lead.
– Don’t shy away and internalize
This was something I did during my first kiss, I literally closed into myself and could barely look him in the eyes. Girls, if he willingly kissed you and he’s a decent guy, then there’s nothing to embarrassed about.
3. Conflict
– Do be straight forward and honest
Most guys like it when a girl makes the first move in resolving issues.
– Don’t beat around the bush
Guys can’t solve anything if they don’t know what the problem is, so replying that nothing is wrong when he asks is a big no no. Furthermore, guys hate it when they are the only ones trying to fix the problem because it makes them feel like they are the only ones invested in the relationship.
4. Meeting his family and friends
– Do realize that it is just as nerve-racking for him as it is you
Girls, meeting his friends and family can be stressful, but just remember that it’s also just as stressful for him.
– Don’t be afraid to actively engage with his family and friends
For guys, his family and friends liking you is one of the most important things. Hence, don’t be shy and anti-social. Engage and show them what an amazing person you are.
5. Going on Dates
– Do actively lead the converstion from time to time
Most guys tend to be on the quiet side. That’s why if there’s ever a lull in the conversation, step up and take the lead.
– Don’t be on your phone
This is one of the most annoying things a girl can do on a date especially when a guy is super invested in her. It’s okay to casually check your phone from time to time, but responding to your multiple text messages can wait until after the date.