We’ve been referred to as “The Advocate” (16 Personalities) or “The Counselor” (Truity), and are among the rarest of Myers-Briggs personality types. Only 2% of women in the population (Truity) are INFJs, and I’m one of them. Here’s what I’d like you to know:
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No, nothing’s wrong. I’m just thinking. If something was wrong, you’d know it. I wear my heart on my sleeve. If I seem unhappy, it’s probably because I’m overthinking something I said or did a week ago. I’ll talk about it if and when I’m ready. It would be nice to let me know you’re there for me, but leave it at that.
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I’m an empath. If it’s that time of the month or I’m having a stressful week, the tiniest sliver of bad news can make me cry (like if an old man drops his cane on the way out of a restaurant). It’s both a blessing and a curse to feel what others are feeling so easily.
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This is me, one of a kind. I am brutally honest and authentic. You don’t have to worry about me lying to you. I spill the beans about things you probably don’t even think are a big deal. Also, I’m the person people look at and think “did they just say that?” I want to stay true to my bubbly self or else I won’t know who I am. You’ll never be bored with me, and I’m full of surprises.
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“I’m on a rollercoaster that only goes up, my friend” – The Fault in Our Stars. I want to make something of myself. Every day I strive to be a better person. I know sometimes I can be too critical, but it’s because I know what we as individuals and human beings are capable of. I want to make positive changes to the world around me, and in order to do that, I must start with myself. I get discouraged easily because I know every day could be my last, and I’m not ready to run out of time.
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I’m nice to a fault. When someone doesn’t like me, I don’t take it well. One of my ultimate goals is to help other people and make them happy. If I feel like I’ve failed at that, I take it personally.
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I’m an idealist. You may catch me in a daydream or constantly seeking happiness and broader meaning. All the bad news in the media makes me extremely distressed, so I look at memes instead. I am spiritual, and I think everything happens for a reason.
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I live by a set of values. These are subject to change because I am open-minded and love to learn new things. I try to always do the right thing, and own up to it if I don’t (I might apologize for something small). My actions reflect my values, and I am not afraid to stand up for what I believe in.
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Don’t let the “introvert” fool you. I am both shy and outgoing at the same time. I only desire people’s company if I can have a better time with them than on my own. Also, I need time alone to reboot and de-stress. Like I said before, I love to make other people happy so if I am around people, I try to lighten the mood and make everyone feel comfortable. The only time you can’t shut me up is if I have a lot to say about a subject I’m passionate about, or if I think I’m funny. P.S. I’m that girl who compliments random people just to make them smile.
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I desire a deep personal connection. I want someone who shares a lot of the same values as me, but I also like to learn and grow from other people. If someone pushes me to be better, I appreciate it. I am very open once I feel safe with someone, and I will always try to express my innermost thoughts and feelings. A deep personal connection builds if you do the same.
- I will support and love you unconditionally. If we get close, I’m a great listener. I want to know your story, and how you became the person standing before me. What are your hopes and dreams? I’ll be there at the darkest hours because I know what it’s like to need someone.