Talking about abuse can be a very hard topic, especially when you decide to come out about abuse in the relationship. Here are a few of the stages and phases you may go through
FEAR
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In the beginning, it’s normal to feel fearful. If not just fearful of your ex-partner, but you can feel fear in your decision. There will be days where you will question if you’re making the right choice and that can be scary.
PAIN
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It will be painful, there are going to be days where you’re just going to cry and sometimes it will be for no reason. The pain you feel will be difficult because the person who you trusted the most inflicted it on you.
POTENTIAL RELAPSE
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This is normal but whatever you do, DON’T LOOK BACK! Just because your ex is familiar, the abuse will still be there and you’ll throw yourself back into a negative cycle.
ANGER
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Next phase of your uncontrollable emotions will be that you’re going to feel angry. There were days for my experience where I was angry at him, at myself, and at the world because it happened.
DESPAIR
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Then you’ll go back to feeling depressed in hurt and will fall into despair. They’re going to be days where you’re just going to want to stay in bed and not do anything.
SUPPORT
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Eventually, you’ll realize that you need help. Whether it be your friends, school counselor or even a licensed therapist.
FORGIVENESS
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Once you get through all the difficult hurdles and painful experiences through this process will begin to forgive your ex. Not necessarily want to be with them but forgive them for hurting you.
STRENGTH
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Finally, you’ll find a strength in yourself that you never ever thought you had! And you will realize how great of a person you are and that there is better out there for you!