Ahhhh Facebook and hookups, two of my favorite things, and also two things I am ashamed to admit how much I do them. Nothing says cool like having a lot of friends on Facebook. Someone once asked me if I Facebook friend everyone I hook up with, and it boils down to a simple “Facebook Rule” I follow. Some people don’t call until three days, some people don’t kiss until after the third date, but I generally don’t add someone until I have met them at least twice. This is because I will not friend someone who I will not see again, and if you friend request someone after only knowing their first name, it means you had to go through some effort to find them, and it is generally pretty obvious.
Facebook plays some other pretty useful roles in today’s sadly technologically dependant dating world. Most people will not stalk someone in real life because it can lead to restraining orders, but most everyone will Facebook stalk someone at the drop of a hat. If you want a Bro’s advice, I would suggest that you refrain from Facebook stalking, but if you absolutely must, make sure you keep it a secret. It would be pretty awkward if you made a comment like “So, I saw that in 9th grade you had longer hair” or if you let slip the fact that you have looked through his/her entire Facebook with lines such as “Oh I have seen that pic” or “I see you have 4 cows in farmville.” It is not cute, it means you have way too much time on your hands or a serious obsession which is kinda a problem (But also a little flattering, I mean you have to be pretty awesome to get someone obsessed with you, am i right?) Also, if you Facebook stalk someone, make sure the window is not open if you sit next to that person in lecture. It is really really awkward.
As for Facebook chat, it is a great tool if you don’t run into the girl/guy on campus and still want to initiate conversation or get his/her number. And even a bro knows when you like someone, you want to talk to them. When I Facebook chat someone--like everything involving romance--I overthink it. Don’t just settle for: “Hey...what’s up?” You can do better than that and you know it. I try and say something funny or witty about something I know she likes or something that just happened to me. In my opinion, you should never become complacent and decide that the fact that someone likes you is a constant because people do not work like that. You should try to be entertaining, charming and funny everytime you talk to them, even in Facebook chat, so that they remember why they do or should like you. Also, don’t obsess over what it means if he/she does not respond to your facebook chat. Generally Facebook is always open in some window of my browser but I don’t always check it too frequently because I am busy. The only thing I would say you could read into a Facebook chat is the fact that he/she wants to talk to you and that is always a good sign (unless they just want you to fill out a survey...you know who you are and it is not cool). A healthy relationship exists outside of Facebook. Let their interactions with you in the real world speak to you, because that is where it counts...unless you are dating someone exclusively online, then I don’t even know where to begin on the advice.
And now, I will leave you with a relevant song, Meet Me on the Facebook” by my all time favorite South-Sudanese Australian rapper, Bangs:
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