What’s going on girls? Hope you’re all crushing your midterms. Fortunately, the battle is almost done and we can return to all the extracurricular endeavors we enjoy the most; getting wasted and going the f*** out. The weekend after you finish a tough stretch of midterms is the equivalent of the beginning of freshman year; getting trashed before you realized it, being out of control, and of course – sloppy hookups. You know what I’m talking about, the ones where you’re hooking up with some guy, you vaguely remember it going well, and then your friend aka third wheel comes up to you and says that bulls*** line, “We have to go.” Next thing you know, you’re out of there without even giving the guy your number. Now you’re thinking, “How am I gonna meet up with that guy again?” There’s only one chance at reconnecting in the near future, Facebook. Reader submitted topic of the week: “Do you always Facebook friend a girl you’ve hooked up with?”
To be honest, the answer is a no. “But that’s not nice NGB.” Yeah, neither is giving the girl the idea that this is going somewhere when it really isn’t. Pick your poison. If a guy doesn’t Facebook friend you after a hook up, it’s not happening. The one exception is if you do that stupid thing where your Facebook name is your first and middle name. How am I supposed to figure that out? If you want to avoid confusion / anxiety, do the normal thing by using your first and last name.
Now if the guy does friend you, it means he’s into you. It doesn’t take a lot to tell if someone is into you. Think about it, if he wasn’t interested, why would he take the time to look you up on Facebook and friend request? To just be friends? Guys don’t want to be friends, at least not initially. They’re trying to go for round two. But they gotta keep flirting to convince you to go for another go around. What’s the Facebook way to do it? Chat feature. Part 2 of this week’s blog: What are the rules about FB chatting someone you hooked up with?
One rule: only do it if you’re looking to keep hooking up. Other than that rule, it’s basically the same rules as texting. Like, you can just say “hey” in a chat message, but I don’t encourage it. There’s nothing funny or witty about it. You want to get someone’s attention then stand out. For example, if you have the same class as some guy and the professor sucks, start off with, “enjoy another riveting lecture by [insert deadbeat professor’s name here] today?” Even if you had a blackout hookup with someone over the weekend and don’t remember anything you could still say, “so apparently we had a fun time on Saturday haha.” Just try to differentiate yourself from everyone else. And don’t be afraid to initiate the conversation. Guys don’t mind it at all. We like it because you taking time out of your day to message me tells me that you’re interested and for once we actually know what we are getting ourselves into.
At this point, the only thing left to do is judge the other person’s level of interest. From my experience, this is what I know. The foolproof way to do it, ask a question, see how long the response is. Long response – I know she’s down. Short response – I keep a tab on her, but don’t get tunnel vision on this chick because it’s not looking optimistic. Another way to tell if it’s a well-thought-out, “I like this guy,” kind of message is the amount of short line messages she sends. Like if she sends me three short line messages before I respond, things are looking good. It means she wrote something, then thought of something better to say to get me to like her more, then wrote that…
Well, I hope that clears up any confusion about Facebook and the opposite sex. Just remember, any sort of contact or quality messaging are good signs. Keep submitting those questions, ladies. I’ll be happy to answer them.
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