So you hooked up with someone over the weekend. Maybe you hooked up during the week. However you roll, the question is: where do you go from there? Provided you’re not friends on Facebook already, should you take the extra step and friend them? Here’s the deal: do not ruin your day by thinking about this too much. Give it some thought, but it’s not like you’re making some tremendous gesture by going out of your way to clicking “add friend.” But! Do not friend them immediately. That is the most valuable piece of advice I can give you. Perhaps wait a couple of days and see if they makes the move first. If they do, they may be a little more interested in you than you had originally thought. You just make yourself look desperate if you friend them too soon.
In the words of Michelle from American Pie, you need to preheat the oven before you stick in the turkey. Now, that is in reference to something totally different, but you know what I mean. The bottom line: don’t look desperate by friending your hookup immediately. If you’re still not Facebook friends after a week, take the “plunge” and click the friend button.
This brings us to a similar topic. What do you do after you’re friends on Facebook? Facebook has a cool feature that lets you chat with people you’re friends with. But, my advice: don’t do it. Facebook chat is a stupid invention. It was created to make you look desperate. We have cellphones for a reason—use them. Provided you have their number, take advantage of it. Texting is a good way to test the waters. Send them a text that shows they crossed your mind, but don’t jump right into conversation. If they’re interested, they’ll initiate it for you.
And girls, you may be asking yourselves: what is Facebook chat etiquette for me? You want to talk to him a little bit more and Facebook chat may be the only way. Don’t take bluntness as disinterest. He’s most likely making you squirm and you know that’ll only interest you more.
The whole Facebook interaction is pretty inefficient to say the least. The guys aren’t trying to look desperate and it’s the same thing with the girls. Ultimately, both sides get nowhere. People are too stubborn to look vulnerable, especially in a public setting—and let’s face it: Facebook is very public. Just avoid interacting on Facebook altogether. If you really want to get to know someone, do it in person. The internet is no place for making any sort of “relationship.”
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