A Single’s Guide to Valentines Day
Ahh, being single on Valentine’s Day… We’re not necessarily proud of it, but ya know, it’s coming and it’s coming fast. Despite our efforts to lock somebody down (AKA, trick them into liking us), here we sit, unsuccessful and ready to embrace the storm.
Yay, love. Yay, Valentines Day. Love is in the air, isn’t it? Us? Bitter? Never.
Yeah, we’re single, don’t feel bad. We’re better off this way. Ya know? Like, we don’t have to negotiate with anyone on what Netflix show to binge-watch and we can have the whole bottle of wine to ourselves. We’ve got more time to do the things we want to do, like girls night, not having to worry about being unpleasantly tickled in that sort of super flirty, adorable way…
…um, that we hate.
So, yeah. Go enjoy the day with your S.O. We’re fine, totally fine. All good over here!
Despite it all though, as we tackle this dreaded holiday, there are a couple of important things to remember. Valentine’s Day isn’t exclusively for couples, so let’s switch it up. Use the day to celebrate love in general, specifically self-love, not just glorified romance. Trust me, you deserve it.
Self-love is always important to remember, but especially important to emphasize on V-Day! Now, whether you’re newly single or you have been for a while, this day can always be a bit of a hurdle whether you claim it bothers you or not.
It’s yet another reminder that we’re alone, but why does that have to be a bad thing? We’re not proud of it, but why aren’t we? There’s nothing wrong with spending Valentine’s Day alone. Who says you can’t treat yourself? So, say it with me, “Here’s to Me Day!”
Today, I challenge you to spoil yourself. Give yourself the treatment you’d deserve from a S.O. Everyone says your S.O. should be you’re best friend, but you’ll never truly be happy until you learn how to be your own best friend. People are going to hurt you, especially your S.O. on occasion. So learn to love who you are because a confidence like that is unshakeable. Don’t be reliant on the validation of other people’s love. “If you live for people’s approval, you will die from their rejection.”
So, be you! Self-love is self-created. Make some time for yourself today and get to spoiling! Here are some fun ways to spend your Me Day as an empowered single!
Treat Yourself
Who says you can’t send yourself flowers or buy yourself chocolate?! If every other girl is getting it and you want some of your favorite things as well, go for it! Order a heart-shaped pizza and get to snackin’. Treating yourself isn’t lame, neglecting yourself is lame. Enjoy this single time and spoiling yourself. Set your own standard.
Pamper Yourself
Be selfish today! Pop the bubbly, pick out your favorite bath bomb, run a warm bath and put on that face mask because one day you’re probably going to have to put someone else’s needs before yours, and moments like these will occur less often. So, for now, be selfish and lounge around in your bathrobe without a care in the world. If you don’t want to stay in, schedule a massage and go get a mani-pedi. Heck, if it’ll hype you up, take a selfie. Those are a sure-fire way to boost your confidence. You don’t have to post it, but take some time to admire yourself whether that’s by taking a selfie or taking yourself shopping. You decide. *winks*
Galentine’s Dates
Galentine’s dates are so underrated. Some girl’s said their favorite V-Day mems are spent with their gal pals, so don’t be afraid to hit up your other single friends to hang out. Whether it’s going out to dinner and a movie, or laying on the couch sharing a bottle of wine, you’re sure to have a good time! Also, on this year’s V-Day, Fifty Shades Freed comes out… how strategic. Anyway, so that’s an option if you’re into that kind of stuff, and if not, you could always go make fun of it. Money well spent, I say!
No matter what you choose today, make it yours, because sister, you deserve it!