College is not a simple task. On top of trying to figure out who you are and what you want to do with your future, relationships form. Best friends are made, significant others are gained and heartbreak becomes a reality. Let’s face it, breaking up with a significant other is heart breaking, no matter what caused it. There can be pain and tears, and lots of ice cream, but in the end, figuring out how to help yourself move on and be happy is the best remedy to begin the process of patching up a broken heart. And never forget, your family and friends give great advice and will always have open arms for you to cry into. Her Campus has come up with a few tips on how to handle a breakup when its feeling impossible.
Let yourself grieve
Cry your little heart out. Don’t keep it in. Crying and letting out your emotions is healthy and one of the best ways to help yourself heal. Bottling up all of your heartache will only keep you hurt longer.
Leave them alone
Don’t call him, don’t text him, don’t facebook him, and don’t send him 100 pictures of your new hair cut. Another healthy way to get over your ex and to stop feeling the pain of a broken heart is to not force yourself into positions where you will continue to get hurt. Yes, it is hard to let go of someone you love, but its harder to continue to beg someone to feel something they just don’t feel. Give the other person their space and without realizing it, you will heal.
Keep your mind busy
Constantly thinking about your ex will not help you move on. You will continue to feel lost and heart broken. By keeping yourself busy, you give yourself less time to think about what you had and lost, and more time to think about what you can now gain. Join a gym, go out with friends, spend the night with your parents, do anything you want, but don’t let yourself stay miserable, because you’re better than that.
Understand it happened for a reason
Remember that the relationship ended for a reason. It might have ended quickly or built up to the breakup, but it did happen. By taking the time to think about what happened, you may come to realize that breaking up was the best thing to do. Always remember your strong and independent and even though it feels like the world is ending, its not. Life isnt easy and isn’t meant to be. Its a journey that is meant to be lived. Time doesn’t stop when you wish it would. It keeps going.