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It’s the Little Things That Don’t Matter

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Montclair chapter.

I feel like I see too many people getting “butthurt” nowadays, a term which, according to its Urban Dictionary, means “getting your feelings hurt, being offended or getting all bent out of shape because of something petty or stupid.” If you take a look on the internet, you will find it everywhere. You’ll see people doing something “petty” just to cause a stir and generate the drama that they claim to hate so much. In all honestly, being butthurt is an art form, being upset and wasting time on someone not texting you back or not liking your Instagram takes mass effort.

But can we really blame people for being this way?

We live in an age where we have the ability to be discreet, but not with our anger. We let things get to us and instead of taking care of them in person or taking action, we go about them the passive aggressive root, subtweeting our friends for not hanging out with us because they can’t possibly have other friends. We have forgotten how to live for ourselves and how to work out problems in an effective way. We keep it inside instead of letting it out and choose to let our anger be known by incidents that are easily resolvable.

So, how did we get here?

With all that is happening in our world right now, why do we focus on the little things, the little things that don’t make us feel good about ourselves? We focus more on if a stranger gave us a “wrong look” than we do about the relationships with the people who aren’t strangers in our lives. We focus on keeping up with our social media presence and making our “like count” than we do about being genuine in real life. We’ll post a paragraph rant about a store not giving us what we deem “proper” customer service and forget that encounter ever happened a week later. So why do we do it? That, I do not have an answer to, but what I do know is that our lives would be easier, more genuine if we put all the energy that we put into the little, nonsense things, into the things that truly matter, that make us who we are.

It’s important for us to remember what really matters and what really makes an impact in everyday life. We shouldn’t worry and stress about the little things, because that is just what they are, little. They are minuscule discrepancies in our lives that will be resolved.

While it can be hard in this day and age, we need to not let them get to us. As a wise princess once said: let it go. Life is too short to worry about the little things and to let them get to you. Don’t let them win, be genuine and live your life with nothing holding your mind back.

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Junior at Montclair State University who plans on majoring in English. Known for being stressed, well dressed, and boyband obsessed.
Sarah Vazquez is a senior at Montclair State University, majoring in English and minoring in Journalism. She is the current Editor-in-Chief and a Co-Campus Correspondent at Her Campus Montclair. She is an avid concert-goer, podcast junkie, X-Files fanatic and someone who always has her nose buried deep inside a book.