Teeth are brushed, face is washed, pajamas are snuggling your cute body and you plop down in bed after that long day of school/work/life. Should you turn on another Netflix episode of “Friends” or do you text the cute manly man you have been ogling over since you saw him on Friday night when he gave you his number? EEK, you did it, you crazy cat! The night continues, the night continues to continue, the night concludes and morning comes. What a great friggin’ way to start the day. Be honest with yourself sweetie, he was never going to text you back. Heck! I bet he never wanted a text in the first place. You carry on with the day as if someone had hit you square in the forehead with a hard bouncy ball, making your head ache like a bitch. Your thoughts consist of: “Did he change his mind?” and “Does he not think I’m cute anymore?” “Maybe it’s the way I laugh, it sounds so gross,” and last but not least, “WHY DIDN’T HE TEXT ME BACK?”
That was a lot, but believe it or not, a majority of girls have been in similar situations like this one, including yours truly. Here is what it means when guys don’t text back.
I was given the privilege of talking to a single 18-year-old male and 47-year-old male currently in a committed relationship. I asked James (age 47) what his reasoning would be for not texting a girl or even “his girl” back right away. His response was quite interesting. “Usually, if I was not interested in a woman, I would have replied to her and say that I was not interested.” James said he was raised in the South and that his family had raised him to treat a woman with the respect she deserves. He thought every girl deserves a text back.
18-year-old Luke responded to my question a little differently than James. “I would give her short answers, I wouldn’t just not text back.” So if both of these men said they would text back if they were not interested. Why don’t us ladies get some texts back? Luke says “sometimes I don’t respond right away because I want her to think I’m a busy guy and that I have an agenda, that I’m not on my phone all the time.” James says “chances are, if my girl doesn’t get a response from me, I probably never saw it somehow or I was in the middle of something.” He also said that if he were single and he gave a woman his number, “maybe I wrote it down wrong so it would be impossible for me to text back.”
Calm down now, ladies! It is most likely that this guy that didn’t text back is either going to soon or he missed it completely by accident. And even if he didn’t answer back because he thought you weren’t cute enough, then this is the time when you set down your phone, look in the mirror and say “hey stupid guy that doesn’t think I’m cute enough…. I am cute enough!”