When you’re young and your heart is shattered into a million pieces, it often feels as if you’re alone in the world. As if nobody knows how you are feeling, besides you, but many people have felt the same ache in their chest when they have lost love. Having a friend by your side to help mend those broken pieces back together can be beneficial. If you are the friend doing the mending, just keep in mind that there are some things that should never be said to a person with a broken heart.
1.) “S/he/they isn’t worth it.”
In your eyes they may not be worth it, but to your now recently single friend, they are. It doesn’t matter if you think the person they are heartbroken over is worth it or not, you are not the one feeling hurt within that moment. You also did not get to know the person your friend is heartbroken over the way they did. You don’t know if they are worth it or not. The chances are, if you tell your friend the person they are crying over isn’t worth it, they will only get angry at you.
2.) “You’re in college, you’ll find someone better”
College has nothing to do with love or relationships. Location in general has nothing to do with feelings for someone else. If their heart is with someone who is 63 miles away then someone who is right in front of them is not going to matter. Sure, there will be cute people around, new adventures, and experiences but if their heart is 63 miles away, then their heart is 63 miles away.
3.) “You’ll be okay”
Yes, you’re right. Eventually their heart will heal and they will be able to breathe again. They know they will be okay but right now they are not. Right now it doesn’t feel as if they are going to be okay. They are hurting now and they need you now.
4.) “You deserve better”
For you, the person they are heartbroken over may not be all that great, but, to them, they are everything they want and more. In their eyes and their heart, there is nobody better. Especially, if the person they are heartbroken over did nothing wrong. Sometimes, people just are not meant to be and that’s okay. Acting as if the person they are heartbroken over is nothing, will only aggravate your friend.
5.) “Get over him/her/them”
They are not going to get over the person they love within a blink of an eye. Just because they are no longer with the person, does not mean they are automatically going to get over them. This is going to take time and they have to want to get over them. If they believe this person is going to come back and they believe this person is worth waiting for, then they aren’t going to get over them anytime soon. Within time, they may get over this person but that has to come on their own terms, and not just because you said so. It is not always that simple.