During winter breaks, I go away on a trip with a group of friends to Mount Snow Vermont. We all ski, and were staying up at my friend’s uncle’s condo across from the mountain, skiing during the day and hanging out at night. I have actually done this trip three times now, with anywhere from 4 to 7 people. And I have been the only girl on all of these trips. I had a blast, and whether you’re a girlfriend, sister, friend or cousin to the boys, you will have a great time too, but take some precautions.
1. Comfort is key
The first question you need to ask yourself is: Will I be comfortable on this trip? When I first started going on this trip, it was me, two guy friends, and one of their college friends. I was 99% sure nothing would happen with me and my guy friends, which thankfully nothing did, but I was weary about the other boy. Nothing major has ever happened with any of the boys who have since come with us, but every time we go, I am left wondering “what will this new boy be like”. Make sure you are comfortable going on the trip, as that is important.
2. Check to see what the accomodations are
When we go, there are a few bedrooms and a few basement rooms with pullout couches, beds, and bunk beds. I always get one of the bedrooms with two beds in it, and sometimes let one of my close guy friends sleep in the other bed if there is a lot of people staying over. However, if there was ever an issue, I could have my own room. Before you go, find out where you’re staying and how beds are being divided up. I know initially I would sleep in the room by myself with my door shut.
3. Your parents will be nervous
While you may be fine going, your parents may be worried. My parents have known two of the boys going since we were kids, but still, it’s a girl going with a bunch of boys, and many fears arise. Be honest about the trip with your parents, and tell them the details before you go. Make sure to keep them updated throughout the duration of the trip, as they will appreciate it.
4. You will be “one of the guys” for the duration of the trip
Boys will be boys. Odds are, they want a trip where they want to hang out with their friends and let loose. They did invite you, so they do think of you as someone they enjoy spending time with. Which means they won’t hang back with their talk about girls and other topics. Consider it a compliment they’re willing to talk about it in front of you. However, if they take it too far, don’t be afraid to stand up for what you know to be right.
5. You’ll also be subjected to annoying boy behavior
Swearing, farting and walking around in just boxers and a t-shirt is quite common. Just make sure to watch them when they’re out and about, and that they do not do anything too appropriate.
6. Make sure you have a go-to person if you feel unsafe
Let’s say a friend gets drunk and starts hitting on you. You may not feel comfortable, and you cannot just get up and leave. Make sure there is one person who you feel comfortable going to in case issues arise. Possibly two, in case one of them is the one making you uncomfortable.
7. Don’t be nervous! Have fun!
Remember, that even though you’re the only girl, you were still invited on this trip, and you’re still with people that you like doing activities with. At the end of the day, you’re all people, and will be able to interact as such. Keep this stuff in mind, just don’t let it consume your trip. Have fun!