Q: Dear Abby,
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly six months, but have spent four of them apart since we go to different schools. I have visited him a few times, but things seem different when I’m with him. I think he has gotten used to the fact that I am never around. When we text or Skype, he seems distant or irritated. I am afraid of him cheating on me or breaking up with me. I want to stay with him, but I feel like I am missing out on a lot of fun that I could be having at school. Should I let go of the relationship or keep trying to make this work?
-Stuck on Skype
A: Dear “Stuck on Skype,”
Sometimes college can be the worst thing for a relationship. A lot of couples go through this, and sadly a lot of them end up splitting. BUT, that does not mean that your relationship has to end. The most important thing to realize in this situation is love is not something miles can break. Just because your significant other maybe on the other side of the world, doesn’t mean you have to give up. You and your sweetie can have “movie dates” via Skype, mail each other love letters, or send each other cute pictures of things you want to do when you see each other next. Now, all of that being said, if your boyfriend is being distant or moody, I suggest talking to him about it. Maybe he is stressed in his new environment or his classes are hard on him. College can bring out the best and worst of people. If talking doesn’t seem to work and things head south, that’s okay too. You are young and are going through the best years of your life. A break up is always hard, but it gives you a chance to chat up that cutie in your Bio class or flirt with your barista at Starbucks (who knows, you might get a free latte). Regardless of what you choose, remember to follow your beautiful heart wherever it takes you. If that means staying with your beau and working things out or splitting up and trying something new, make sure you are doing what YOU want to do. Don’t let distance hold you back from having the life you want to live. Stay strong and do what feels right!
(P.S., there is nothing ice cream, a good movie, and friends can’t fix… even a break up.)
Love & Lipstick,
Abby