Dear Abby,
I met the most amazing guy last semester. We have everything in common, we get along really well, and he is always there for me when I need him. I really want to tell him that I have feelings for him, but every time I get the confidence to confess my love, he tells me how much he appreciates our friendship. I have never been in the friend-zone before. Do I tell him how I feel, or try to get over the fact that he just sees me as a friend and move on?
– Just One of the Guys
Dear Just One of the Guys,
There is no denying that the friend-zone sucks. Luckily, you have a few options here. You could continue keeping your feelings from him, but then that guarantees nothing will ever come of it. Another option is telling him flat out. Yes, there is a chance that this could make your friendship awkward, but if he truly values your friendship, nothing should ruin it. Another option you have is of course moving on, but that could mean you might miss out on an awesome relationship with someone you already have feelings for. Also, moving on from someone you really care for is emotionally and physically exhausting.
I say tell him how you feel. Who knows, he may feel the same! People can be really good at hiding their emotions. He may just be afraid to tell you how he feels. This of course might not be the case. Worst case scenario, your friendship will suffer. If this happens, it is his loss. If he isn’t comfortable with someone expressing their emotions, don’t take it personally. That is his own personal problem. Never feel afraid or sorry because of how you feel about someone or something. Remember that your emotions are beautiful, regardless of what they are. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you choose. Just remember, sometimes in order to find love you have to take risks.
Love & Lipstick,
Abby