Whether you’re the dumper or the dumpie, the end of a relationship really sucks. Sometimes we look for excuses to end things, and sometimes we say things we don’t actually mean. If your partner ever breaks up with you, or you’re thinking about breaking up with your partner, try to avoid some of the most common break up excuses, because they could be misconstrued with what you’re probably thinking.
1. It’s me, not you = It’s you, not me
You are you, and you should love who you are. If a relationship isn’t working anymore, it’s most likely not you. It’s them; but sugar coating it is always a little nicer.
2. I need some space = get as far away from me as possible
When you live a five-minute walking distance away from your significant other, it can become difficult to find alone time. But no matter how much time you spend together, there is always time for alone time. The library, your bed, the shower, and the gym are plenty of places to just be by yourself and your own thoughts. If you think space is the reason you need to break up, look not at the space between you and your partner, but just you and your partner.
3. We should see other people = I like someone else
There is only one reason why you would want your significant other to see someone else: because you already have. Sometimes, someone may sweep you off your feet no matter where you are or whom you’re with. Feelings cannot be controlled or stopped. If that’s the case, be honest and upfront so that your ex isn’t devastated when they see you with another person on your Snapchat a week later.
4. We should be friends = I just don’t like you romantically anymore
The feeling of not loving your significant other is sometimes completely uncontrollable. People grow apart, flames die out, and some relationships are not meant to last forever. Don’t cling on to your drifting relationship by trying to remain friends with an ex. We all know that just never works out to anyone’s benefit.
5. I don’t want to hurt you = you like me way more than I like you
Telling someone that is head over heels for you, “I don’t want to hurt you” is like insulting someone and saying “no offense.” The damage is done whether or not you intended to hurt them. So save the hurt, intentional or not, and just be up front and honest with your partner. If they’re more into it than you are, you may just not be ready for a serious relationship quite yet.