I was sitting on my couch with my roommate the other day having one of our usual chats about the state of the dating world and the state of the entire male population. We scrolled through our Facebook pages eyeing all the seemingly happy couples, engagement announcements and relationship memes.
Being a member of the single ladies’ club for years gets a girl questioning herself a lot…as many singles will tell you. You wonder, “why am I single?” Is something wrong with me? Maybe if I did more of this I would some how fall into a relationship?
I am college woman, I’m an involved individual, I`m driven, I crave success, and I am also a Christian. So I expect the man I date to be the same way and to treat me with the utmost respect and dignity. I simply can`t settle for less, is that so wrong? That evening got me thinking maybe my standards are just too d**n high and maybe if I lowered them I would finally have the relationship I wanted. Thank God my beautiful mother talked me out of that.
But I was not alone in the way I was thinking. Many girls feel like they expect too much and that maybe if they lowered their standards they would be happy. Instead of striving for the very best they settle for mediocrity. But it doesn’t just stop at relationships. People will accept jobs that they hate, deal with friends who continue to put them down, and put up with things they aren’t happy with just to settle because they don’t believe that they can do better. Life is too short to settle for mediocrity and for average. People should want extraordinary and real authentic happiness, the type of happiness that is deeper and bigger than a post on Facebook. This is why you should never settle.
1.The second you settle for less than what you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.
Settling for anything comes with many problems. When you decide to settle for something that you don’t want, that decision lingers on and takes a toll on your well being and you in general especially if it is something you just down right don’t want for yourself.
2. By not settling you allow yourself to grow and learn what you really want and who you really are. When you know who you truly are you giving yourself to opportunity to become the person that only the right person deserves.
How can we expect so much of another when we don’t really even know who we are yet? You have to know yourself and love yourself before you can be with anybody.
3. We are too young!
We have our whole lives ahead of us to find love. We are going to go through life and meet so many people along the way. There is no reason that someone as young as we are needs to settle for anything less.
4. We are too amazing!
Girl you are beautiful, smart and divinely made. There is no reason to settle for F Boys.
5. When you settle you take one step back from finding the right one.
Every time you make the decision to settle you take one step back from finding your prince charming. Wait for him. It`s so worth it.
On an end note I want to say that you are beautiful and you are loved. So keep doing you boo boo and the love you’ve been waiting for will come when you least expect it. Good luck!
XOXO,
Kayla <3