We all go through trouble, whether it be minor or major. Some of us conceal that trouble, others let it be known. I’m a concealer, and here is how I get through my trouble:
1. Talking through it– No, I don’t talk to other people about my problems. I talk myself through them. I’m not the person who has someone I vent to and just tell them all my problems. I view my problems as being minor, no matter the magnitude others may see them as. Therefore, I talk myself through it. I spend a lot of time in solitude when I’m having trouble and I just sit down and talk myself through the entire situation. If it involves someone else, I speak to my confidant—whether that be a dear friend of mine or my sister, and I talk to them to see if they have a different perception than myself. In the heat of the moment, I can be irrational to say the least, so before I do something that I wouldn’t be proud of, I contemplate the consequences of the either or’s.
2. Music– Music explains my emotions better than I can explain them myself. With that being said, I understand why people ask others what their favorite song is. With that question, you can really understand someone’s feelings, ulterior motives, and intentions. If I’m feeling sad, I listen to music that reflects those feelings—which ranges from Brian McKnight and Whitney Houston to the Weekend. If I’m on ten and feel like going 730, I try not to listen to music for the most part. (The music I’d listen to in that instant would probably force me to act irrationally, especially if I don’t talk through my problems.)
3. Running– I do this the least frequently due to my access to my favorite type of running—what I find to be comfortable for me. At home, I would go running at a park near my home, listening to a mellow playlist (YES MELLOW, I LISTEN TO SLOW MUSIC WHILE RUNNING DON’T KILL ME.) Running and working out gives me a clear mind. The park is vast and the times that I do go running, it’s practically empty, off of a main highway, and filled with greenery, so the whole environment also helps me clear my mind.
All in all, I try to confront my feelings, don’t fake the funk, mask myself, or try to deny what is right in front of me. I’d rather see things for what they are so it doesn’t tear at me to the point where I’m in the bouts and everyone around me is feeling my wrath. I don’t think that is healthy or good for anyone. I like to let everyone around me feel welcome and acknowledged, because 10/10 they aren’t related to whatever I am dealing with.
“Spread good vibes or stay away from me.” – If I believe this, I should follow this belief, right? I have to stay true to myself and keep the presence of others in mind.