Most women work , study, train, workout, write, practice, educate, learn and execute everything that they do, as hard as they can. Whatever your poison is, be it running, writing, singing; you all do it to the best of your ability, and you are driven to do it. Who asks you to work so hard, to lose sleep and to stress out so much that you question your OWN sanity? You do. You are successful, intelligent, and gorgeous. So then, ladies, why do we settle? Why do we settle for men who might be Mr. Right? Why do we settle for someone who
won’t tell us how happy they are to have us in their lives everyday? And why do we allow a boy to take our pride and our love for life right out from under us? This puzzles me each and every day. I know we have all been there, and if you haven’t, I hate to break it to you, but it is only a matter of time. This is not a man-bashing piece, but I do want to illuminate the issues I see each and every day in young women. I love men. Men can be the best things in the world. They can change us, challenge us, compliment us when we need it most, smile at us from across the room. Men are perfect, but there are some of them out there who just aren’t. Maybe they need to grow up a little bit, or maybe their mother just didn’t love them enough? Whatever it is, these boys are trouble.
Getting your heart broken is something that changes you, scares you and helps you grow. I think it can make you into a better woman. You have to remember that no matter what, going back to someone who hurt you will never work, in your mind, nothing will change. Also, plain and simple: You deserve better. Remember to not settle for someone, just because you want someone in your life. Being alone is better than being with someone “just because.” When you take time for yourself, you learn more than you ever will with anyone else. You are a wonderful person, and you should really get to know yourself.
I look at Kim Kardashian’s failed relationship, and I see a woman desperate for a happy
ending. Of course this wasn’t a publicity stunt-have a heart people. But it was definitely a sudden decision with consequences. Many women make the same mistake Kim did everyday (however, the cost of their wedding may be slightly less.) At times, that same mistake turns into a lifestyle, and your “Mr. Right now” just turned into “Mr. Father of my children.” You are smarter and more capable than this, and you have to know that there is something better out there. I see so many young women in relationships that are so wrong for them. We are young, and at this stage of the game, if someone cheats on you, odds are they are not going to change. I hate to say this, but have you ever seen “He’s Just Not That Into You”…. Yeah. When in doubt, get out.
Nothing in life is perfect, but a relationship should never leave you asking so many questions. Some say that you ‘just know’ when you meet the right person; I don’t believe this. I refuse to give into my momentary assumption and infatuation that I will marry a certain person the minute I see him. If I went with this theory, I would be on my fifth marriage by now. A relationship takes work and time, and most importantly respect. If you ever, and I mean ever, feel that you are settling, it is because you are. You can do better and you will, there is someone (I like to believe there are several) out there for all of us. Maybe one on each continent? I like to be optimistic.