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The hardest part of dating takes place before the actual act of ‘dating’. The hardest part is the awkward stage of wondering if the guy you want actually wants you. It can be tricky and can be like a chess game. To win the game, it helps to have an insight into what the other team is thinking.
I asked nine guys how they show their interest in a girl. Below, I listed the top four ways that they responded.
1. Quality time
If a guy wants to pursue a relationship with you, he’s going to try to spend time with you, no matter what the situation is or what you two are doing together. All he will care about is being with you. “I’ll ask them to go do stuff with me, doesn’t matter what it is. [It] could be grocery shopping, studying, anything really,” Grant said. Any time together is meaningful to them. They want to be with you in at any time. “Something else that I do is just take time to spend with them, like going and getting coffee and just being able to listen to them is wonderful,” Patrick said.
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2. Communication
It’s important for a guy to get to know you. If a guy has a real interest in you, he will talk to you more than he usually would and go out of his way to start a conversation. “I’d probably just go out of my way to talk to them and see how interested they are in me,” Matt said. It’s impossible to truly know someone but finding someone knew and being able to figure out the ins and outs of their personality is what is most exciting about relationships, and guys know this. “I mainly spend time with them and take a genuine interest into knowing them deeper than surface level,” Sean said.
“I show I’m into a girl by showing interest in their interest and also listening to them whenever they have problems, really try to help them learn about what really drives them to their goals,” Kyle said. There are two sides of ourselves: the side we show strangers, and the side we show those we care about. If a guy is asking a lot of questions about you or talks to you constantly, it’s not a bad sign. “I’d try to spend time with them, maybe get their number and communicate with them more than you would just with your friends, whether that be texting or over the phone,” Rocky said.
3. Smiling
It sounds cheesy. It sounds fake, but it’s true. Truthfully, some guys are just happy, there is a clear difference between a guy who is always having a good time and a guy who wants to be with you. “I’d probably just smile at them like an idiot,” Matt said. It’s easy to be happy when you’re with someone you like. Guys who smile and laugh a lot around you are more likely to keep hanging out with you.
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4. Joking
Although this goes along with the first one, it is set apart in a way. Two people who have a connection find it easy to laugh and joke with each other. If you can’t have fun in any kind of relationship, it’s not entirely worth it. “You make them laugh and do things to show that you care about them,” Sean said. Being able to make someone laugh is the key. It shows that they enjoy your presence and that they are comfortable. Guys who go out of their way to be funny are really trying to get to know you more. “I might joke around with them a little more playfully, tease them, things like that,” Nick said.
In short, guys just want to know you. They do this by spending time with you, talking to you, smiling when you’re together, and making you laugh. If he’s doing all of these things, I think you’re set to win the game. However, more than anything, enjoy the time you have with him. Don’t obsess if some days he doesn’t show all of the signs, because no one gives their all every single day. Enjoy the small moments, and take it all in, because this is the fun part.