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Welcome to the latest in relationships, sex, love and dating. Introducing, “The Scoop with Szmuc” (Smook) and no, that’s not pronounced schmuck. Every week we’re giving our readers an opportunity to send in their questions to Her Campus FSU staff writer and relationship guru Sharon Szmuc relating to the theme of the week. This week’s theme is Post Syllabus Week Regret.
It’s the end of syllabus week and when you saw your bank account you realized those 10 shots you had at Pots are the reason you ended up waking up next to your neighbor, Joey. If you are that girl who has plenty of regrets after going HAM during syllabus week and those horny demons keep sliding through your DM, no worries. There were several girls this week who dealt with post syllabus regret too and who sought some advice.
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Julia M.,* 21
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a while now, but I can’t help eyeballing my coworker. He makes me laugh so much and I think it’s harmless. But is it terrible that I get distracted by him at work?
Dear Julia,
I know that sometimes being taken means being off boundaries and when we date someone for so long we get into a comfortable routine that may bore us a little. You know f*cking the same guy over and over again is like watching reruns of Friends; you know essentially how the plot of each episode will play out. But you may be eyeballing your coworker because you miss the idea of having the freedom to flirt with someone or maybe there is something about his looks that seem mysterious. I am not suggesting you break up with your boyfriend because I think a slight attraction to another male is normal, just like we all drool when we see a shirtless picture of Zac Efron. You may be seeking from your coworker something you aren’t seeking from your boyfriend—attention or even just something different.
So this is my advice to you: spice up your relationship. Try new sex positions, role play, watch a comedy, go to an arcade or plan a cute date other than the normal Netflix and Chill, have a pillow fight, tickle him randomly (be creative with this one) and most importantly don’t do the exact same thing. The more exciting your relationship gets, the less you’ll be thinking about your coworker. As long as you’re not doing the deed in those rooms that read Employees Only, then I wouldn’t worry.
–Sharon
Brooke M., 20
During syllabus week I went home with a random (please don’t judge me). When my LIT2020 professor was taking attendance I turned around and he was sitting there, we both made awkward eye contact. The other day he sat right next to me and started to make conversation. I am not really interested, but don’t want to deal with the awkwardness the rest of the semester.
Dear Brooke,
This has happened to me before where a guy I swiped right on Tinder happened to be sitting in my Mass Media and Sport’s class last semester, and being someone who raises their hand a lot he noticed me right away. He ended up messaging me on Facebook (because I am an idiot and add various people on Facebook, you know since Tinder profiles aren’t enough) and he ended up joking about the fact that he saw me in class. We girls think guys make a bigger deal out of things than they really do, but, in all honesty, he could have gone home with various girls that night or he might just think that deep down sitting next to you makes things less awkward than avoiding you at all. You know, guys don’t always think with one of their heads sometimes over the other.
My advice: if he doesn’t ask to study with you or reaches out to you, but sits there and makes small talk you’re in the clear. Be nice though because he may be great at writing literary papers and you might need a study buddy. Just one thing, whatever you do please do not yell out in the middle of class, “I am not trying to date you!” because most likely he isn’t. Asking you what the assigned reading for class was doesn’t always mean “ready for round two?” Believe it or not, in class guys aren’t trying to get some p*ssy like they are at Pots each Thursday for happy hour.
–Sharon
Christie P., 19
I recently saw this guy I like while out at Recess during syllabus week. Last time I spoke to him was during finals week. How do I get him to notice me and break the ice after all these weeks went by?
Dear Christie,
Girls have this notion that we have to wait by the phone for him to call or for him to make the first move. If you already think about him, text him! Unless you don’t have his number there are other alternatives (adding him on Facebook, following him on Instagram – just please do not email him on his FSU account). The worst thing that can happen is that he doesn’t text back, but then two things can happen: you can find yourself at Recess again hoping to run into him at the same exact spot and then make a move or you end up going out regardless for girl’s night out and get drunk anyways. You might end up meeting another guy that might be even hotter, who knows. We do attend FSU and everyone around here is smoking hot, anyways. If you have hearts in your eyes for this guy and you can’t wait to bang the sh*t out of him (cross your fingers he is at Recess). But, don’t be shy to say, “Hey! How was break?” If he continues to make conversation and not small talk, he is interested. There is a difference between both of these: small talk will consist of him not really asking questions back to you, but in a conversation he’ll keep eye contact, ask questions about your break and about the beginning of the semester in general and as the final move – he asks for your number.
Don’t you worry the syllabus week gods are in your favor and if you’re lucky he might be at Recess Friday waiting to see you. It all starts with confidence; you never know, this guy might be waiting to run into you again as well. If you are shy then dance with your girlfriends near him, look at him and turn away. Playing the quiet hard-to-get game will definitely make him notice you and, before you know it, you’ll be grinding to “Hotline Bling.” So call him when that hotline bling, it can only mean one thing (he’s probably into you, too).
–Sharon
For next week’s theme, “How to Get Him to Notice You,” Sharon will be answering questions on how to get him to slide through your DMs, ask you to frozen yogurt or to actually hit you up for some Netflix and Chill (we know you girls love this just as much as guys do). Don’t we all wait for the 2 a.m. text, anyways?
Whatever the case may be, submit your questions to hercampusfsu1@gmail.com stating your first name, last name first initial and your age by midnight this Thursday, January 28th. If you would like to be published anonymously, we can do that as well. Just ask when you submit! The first three people to submit questions will receive a free beauty product, and, who knows, maybe you can use it for your next date. Remember, girls and guys are encouraged to send in questions, so stop swiping right and ask away!
*Names have been changed to protect identity.