For Love of Long Distance: 5 Reasons why it’s worth it!
University is an exciting time. There’s no other word for it! However, for those of us who leave boyfriends or girlfriends behind, it can be difficult and at its worst, painful. So why should we do it? Is long distance loving really worth our time and effort? Here at HCX we’ve compiled 5 reasons why you should give it a shot:
1. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder:
The somewhat unbearable phrase told to all young lovers in long distance relationships: “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Often coupled with a sickly sweet smile, a squeeze of the hand and the knowledge that the speaker is really thinking: “6 months, tops.” Yet, this premonition is actually not the case, a new study has proven that couples in long distance relationships have more expressive and meaningful communication than those who see each other regularly. So, maybe that old wives tale about “absence” really is true.
2. Looking your most beautiful isn’t a must on a daily basis:
On a more practical note, you have a perfect excuse for not looking presentable all the time! With your lover gone, no one can blame you for having a few days guzzling ice cream in trackies and an old T-shirt of theirs. Of course, you absolutely don’t have to dress up for anyone but yourself in a relationship. Your partner should love you whether you’re wearing ‘haute couture’ or a bin-bag. However, everyone likes to look nice in front of the person they love- it’s empowering! And now you can bring out the big guns- (that gorgeous new top from Urban Outfitters)- for when you do see them.
3. Lessons in communication and planning:
HCX believe that MI6 should be lining up to employ anyone who’s experienced the planning that goes into long distance relationships. It can be a nightmare to just find a weekend that’s good for both of you to meet up, let alone the logistics of train times! But this can also drive you to plan earlier, and better. Your future boss will thank you for it! Long distance also forces couples to be completely trusting, open and honest with one another. Here at HCX we think, how could communicating directly and regularly be a bad thing?
4. It’s more amazing when you do see them:
It is completely accurate that there are some people with whom you will be able to pick up any conversation ‘from where you left off’. Long distance creates this kind of effect, especially when the couple in question are completely committed. Everything becomes exciting: whether it’s that amazing brunch you had on Tuesday, or the new movie that you’re both dying to see. The time you spend together, no matter how you spend it, instantly becomes special. It will become the one thing you hold on to during your weeks away from one another.
5. If your relationship survives long distance, nothing will stand in its way:
Many students are well aware of the fact that if they come to university in a long distance relationship, they may not leave in one. The months of October and November in first year are infamous for being the time when most long distance couples will break up. We know it’s not easy: long distance is expensive, painful and definitely not for everyone. Yet it’s vital to remember that it can also be full of expectation, joy, excitement and passion. If you and your partner can survive long distance, there is very little that your relationship could not survive again, trust us.
HCX hopes we’ve eased some of the tension surrounding long distance relationships and that they don’t seem nearly as awful as they did before!