Relationships can be scary. Getting to know someone intimately is not the easiest thing. It is even harder when there are miles in between you. There are several movies and books that tell girls that “Long Distance Relationships” are hard and impossible, but no one ever tells you it’s going to be ok. It’s hard work, and often times scary things will happen to you that will make you question your sanity and whether this is really worth it. IT IS! If you are with the right person, LDRs are worth every crazy text and sob session. Sometimes it’s good to laugh and think about all the hilarious and tormenting things that happen to us when we are in a long distance relationship. It doesn’t make it better, but sometimes it makes it easier.
1. People think you’re crazy/amazing for your commitment
For some reason when you tell people you are in a long distance relationship, they sigh and say, “you poor thing” or “good for you, that’s rough.” Secretly they are thinking, “I give it 2 months.” Jokes on them though when you stay together longer than them and their significant other, who lives down the hall.
2. You don’t go an hour without looking at your phone
Whether it’s for text or Skype, cell service is your heartbeat. Without it, there is no way to talk to your significant other. You tend to break out in hives when it’s gone.
3. Deep conversations are a dime a dozen
Sure you’d like to think that you will always have something to say to your SO, but that’s not always the case. Most of the time “hey” or “lol” will dominate the conversation. Don’t worry though, it doesn’t degrade the relationship. Just wait for those days when something amazing happens and you can’t wait to tell them all about it.
4. You don’t understand why you’re crying when they leave
This is an especially scary phenomenon for all of you out there that don’t cry a lot. Every time you know it’s time to part it is Titanic, The Notebook, and A Walk To Remember combined in one display of waterworks that you have never experienced. Don’t be embarrassed though, most of the time your SO will be flattered or even cry with you because it’s sad for them too.
5. You suddenly have to care about your appearance when you see them
When you are apart you can wear your baggy sweatpants and no make up because you aren’t trying to impress anyone. It sucks when you finally have to pluck and plaster when you do see them. You don’t mind it though, because you missed them so much.
6. You watch your cycle like a hawk to make sure nothing happens the weekend you see him
We all know that time of the month sucks. It sucks even more if it is the same weekend that you get to see your significant other after weeks or months of separation. You would think that mother nature would be merciful, but then you remember that Princess Diaries quote about feeling inferior with consent and realize that you will never understand the power that is your period because you are too scared of it.
7. The thirst is always there
Sure, you miss talking to your significant other, but there’s other stuff that you miss too. Distance somehow amplifies this. It sucks when you’re sitting alone texting them and that’s all you can think about. But we get through it because we are strong.
8. You see something that reminds you of them and suddenly get sad
It could be a blue scarf that reminds you of his eyes or a song that makes you think of that car ride you took on your first date. Immediately after there is anger and some shouting, followed by crying. You may have already noticed, but there is a lot of crying that occurs in a LDR.
9. When you see someone kiss in a movie you react with sobbing
Crying again. Surprised? When you see a couple on TV kissing or just being in love you think about how lonely you are without your SO and start crying. This is an easy fix though, just don’t watch any type of romantic movie. Sure Pitch Perfect is the best, but can you really handle watching Becca and Jesse lip lock?
10. Your calendar no longer has exam dates, but the weekends you get to see him
Calendars are so important in college. They keep your school work and important due dates organized. Once you are in a long distance relationship though, slowly the calendar is filled with reminders of when you are going to see your SO next. Pretty soon your calendar is them.
11. Everyone wants you to stop talking about him
You love talking about them. You can’t seem to stop talking about them. Your friends nod and smile politely but inside they just want you to talk about something else. ANYTHING ELSE! You can’t help it though. You miss them so much.
12. Everyone jokingly reminds you that you’re in a relationship
Yeah, we know. We know that we can’t talk or sometimes even look at someone else because we are already taken. We can’t even enjoy the fact that we are in a relationship at a party because our SO is several miles away. Now you’re angry and just want to go home because you want to punch people in the face, and that sucks.
13. Even if they piss you off, the distance somehow saves them
They may really piss you off sometimes, but they aren’t close enough for a good slap, so you just forgive them because you love them despite how much they suck.
Relationships and what they do to us are scary, but when you finally get to see your SO, you remember how much all the sucky stuff is worth the few days out of the month you get to see them. Don’t run away in terror from LDRs. Embrace them.