Now that coupling season is officially underway, beware of the Textually Talented. We’ve all met them at some point. Maybe it was a guy you met on vacation and you started talking everyday, or that guy at work that wants to be “professional” so keeps his distance but texts you a lot. But whatever the situation, it’s those guys who actually take you a while to find out that their just awkward human beings and can’t hold a conversation in person, but make you feel like you are their whole world in a text message.
When you think about it, this is actually an amazing talent. Creating that much meaning and feeling through a text message is a surprising feat, considering your average guy barely even uses emoji. But I implore you to pay attention to the red flags.
Does he acknowledge you in public?
If he does talk with you, does he flirt?
Does he sound like his text messages?
If all of these are no… Then run away as fast as possible.
If he doesn’t talk to you when you see him in person then just imagine how a romantic dinner between the two of you would be? Would you text each other across the table? If he doesn’t show interest in person then it probably means he’s hiding something or is too shy to actually pursue you, which would mean the relationship is literally going no where except to maybe more flirty text messages. If the conversation is boring and dull when he does choose to speak to you, then you know that this guy actually needs the time to sit back and think about his responses to you in order to actually make them enjoyable, which is why he can be so seemingly amazing in a text message. You don’t even know if his words are his words… I mean he could get his cute one liners from google… Anyone who needs to do that in order to be enjoyable in person, isn’t worth spending your time with.
Our generation has coined the term “talking,” but no one can actually define what it means, all we know is that it’s the “getting to know you” stage before you actually start dating. But it means something a little different to everyone. In middle school it may have meant IMing all night long or sitting at lunch together, but now that we are adults isn’t it more important to use the talking stage differently? It’s so important that texting isn’t the main form of communication during this early part of forming a relationship. Form a connection other than just through your wifi.