It's almost here ladies! Valentine's Day: potentially the best or worst day of the year depending on your Facebook relationship status. February 14, the celebration of St. Valentine, the only 24-hours of the year where the entire globe is celebrating this phenomenon we call love. I've narrowed down the female expectations and situations of dealing with this day to three options; "in a relationship", "it'scomplicated", and "single".
If you're in that perfect relationship with Prince Charming, then your expectations for these mere 24-hours are naturally through the roof (as they should be). If this guy is good enough to have his name next to a little heart for all to see on your Facebook profile, then he obviously is going to sweep you off of your feet. If there aren't proclamations of his affection given to you on the most romantic day of the year, then obviously re-think the relationship, because guys know this is the one day of the year that they can't get away with the "I forgot" excuse (like we all know they usually do on 'monthaversaries').
The next option, "its complicated", is the most dreaded amongst the female race, and the 14th of February is the day that this un-definition rears its ugly head most prominently. When someone is in an undefined relationship it is usually because they are in a friends-with-benefits situation or a precursor to a relationship. In the hookup situation, a girl is forced to wonder whether that special 'friend' guy is going to ask her to celebrate Valentine's Day (although they are 'nothing') or whether he's going to ignore it and wait ‘til the weekend to be in contact with her again. The way he responds to this can be crucial ladies; if he ignores it then you will most likely ALWAYS and ONLY be in the undefined zone. Another problem faced by the undefined relationship is whether she should expect the relationship to take root on this day and become official. Obviously men are completely unpredictable no matter where you choose to look for the answer; whether it be friends, self-help books, or movies, you just really have no clear answer. So the question is, do you get mad because he chooses not to make it official? If he doesn't choose to celebrate with you, my suggestion is to drop him like a hot potato, but hey, the decision is all yours.
The final situation, "single", is the loneliest and can go one of two ways: you sit at home and watch "The Notebook", eat Valentine's Day candy you bought yourself, hate your life, call ex-boyfriends, and cry yourself to sleep; or you have a party amongst you and all your single friends and condemn the day. Noah is non-existent and you are single so you obviously haven't found a man that has swept you off your feet, so what? Embrace it. The first option is unabashedly pathetic, and you need to get off the couch and choose the second option. Although it may lead to bad decisions and regrets, you are single and these actions are expected. Overall, the cultural structure of Valentine's Day has implications for all of us, and whether they are positive or negative, we must remember to celebrate in fashion.