This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at C Mich chapter.
Nobody likes to see their best friend upset, especially when it’s triggered by something that used to make them so happy. Tears, venting sessions, and comfort food will probably be commonplace after a breakup, but as far as getting her back in the game, that’s what best friends are for, isn’t it?! Whether she is the dumper or the dumpee, here are10 fail-proof ways to help your newly single BFF feel a little more like herself:
- Give her something cold or warm to drink. Post-fight, the crying is virtually non-stop and can really take a toll on the throat. Immediately after the confrontation she is probably not in the mood to eat, either. This makes a slushy or hot chocolate perfect.
- Listen to her. This is a very simple one but if she needs to yell, scream or sob, let her. She needs to let all her thoughts out and know that a true friend is listening.
- Give her a hug. Another simple one that can go a really long way. With the sudden lack of affection, she is probably feeling a little empty. A hug, no matter who it’s from, will remind her that she is loved.
- Look around the room and remove anything that will remind her of him. A blanket, jewelry, or note can bring up more emotion than expected, so it’s best just to hide it somewhere till she is ready to face it.
- Help her stay organized. If you haven’t heard before: “an organized space creates an organized mind.” In this time, she really needs an organized mind. Used tissues are probably piled on her desk and dirty clothes strewn all over the floor. If she doesn’t mind, help her tidy up a bit. A little goes a long way.
- Surprise her with something nice. After a bad class, pick up her favorite drink from Starbucks or a magazine she likes to read.
- Remind her of something she has to look forward to, and if there is nothing, plan something! Day to day, the tears are difficult to ward off. Whether it’s her favorite TV show, a trip home, or a shopping day, knowing there is something worth getting through the hour/day/week will help her power through any waves of emotion!
- Be her work out buddy and encourage her to get to the gym! Regardless of who did the dumping, there is some type of built up anger that resides in her; going to the gym will help her release some of the tension she’s been holding in. Also, knowing that she is deciding to be healthy and active for herself can be really empowering!
- Remind her that being single is a really positive opportunity. Though she may not see it as her ideal situation, being single offers her more freedom and time to grow as an individual.
- Encourage her to start something new. An exercise class or a new club is the perfect distraction. It will keep her mind occupied and eat up time that she would formerly spend with her boyfriend.
I hope that you never have to see your best friend in shambles, but chances are she will go through a heart break at least once or twice in her life. I hope these offered a few ideas, but remember that just being there for your friend is always enough!