College is overwhelming; there is no doubt about it. While our definitions of “too much” may differ, it’s all inherently the same. We’ve all had times when academics, family, or social life seems to be more than we can handle, but what can we do about it? Talking to friends or family members is what the majority of stressed or upset collegiate students do. That’s what those people are for – to be there for you, right? But, when it comes down to it, sometimes the people closest to you in your life can have a very biased opinion, and that’s not always what we need as individuals. So what can you do when that isn’t enough?
Even just the word “therapy” is jarring to many of us.
“Why should I see a therapist? I’m not crazy!”
Many people are scared to talk to a therapist because of the stigma that it brings. But in this day and age, therapists are not for psychos, they’re for people with average lives who need someone unbiased to talk to (i.e. everyone and anyone). Anyone can talk to a counselor, but those of us carrying greater burdens can find some extra peace in it.
A good friend of mine had a series of very difficult and traumatic events happen to her throughout middle school, which is already a vulnerable time for everyone. She described her experience as positive, and she felt as though “a weight had been lifted.” As her friend, I saw a positive difference in her behavior. She had really turned her life around.
Friends of mine have recovered from eating disorders and anxiety disorders, just to name a couple. Others have seen therapists just to talk or “de-stress” from all the natural complications that life brings. In short, therapy heals people. It makes people better and happier. We focus so much on our physical health and often ignore our mental health. You would never tell someone with diabetes to refuse treatment because of a stigma, so why are our emotions any different? The point is, therapy is for everyone. It’s not for crazy people; it’s for those of us who want to improve our mental and emotional well being.
Sometimes the problem can be something as simple as feeling blue after coming back from studying abroad – the sudden change in lifestyle is unusual, and no one likes to feel as if they’ve “missed” something while they were away. Even though it’s common and doesn’t seem too serious, feelings like this shouldn’t be taken lightly. Help can’t hurt, right?
At Bucknell, we have plenty of excellent resources available to students. The Counseling and Student Development Center has people just for Bucknell students, and that is something to take advantage of. Even if you don’t think you need to see a therapist on a regular basis, it’s worth a visit if you have something on your mind.
Not everyone who reads this will choose to try therapy, but everyone can choose to shake the stigma that seeing a therapist may bring. If a friend seems down, suggest it. If you hear of someone who does go to counseling, never assume anything or jump to conclusions. Everyone is different, and everyone deserves respect and support.