With the start of the new season and the weather heating up, some of us girls have caught spring fever. You’ve recently been hanging out (moreover, hooking up) with this guy, and you’re having a lot of fun. But the calendars have already hit April, and if you haven’t felt it already, you are sure feeling it now – the school year is coming to a close. None of us want to face what this inevitably means for our love lives. So, what’s a girl to do?
As Cindy Lauper said it best, girls just want to have fun. But at the same time, no girl wants to be left brokenhearted come summertime. To ensure that doesn’t happen, we need a reality check – with about a month left of school, it’s time be honest to ourselves about what’s going on with this guy.
Do you like him?
As much as you may want to deny it, some part of you must like this guy. Why else would you be hooking up with him? For you to be hooking up with him (especially if it’s been a few times or more), you must find at least some aspect of him attractive. You may not necessarily have feelings for the dude, but you must like him a little or at least have fun with him.
So ask yourself – how do you honestly feel about this guy?
If you just like to see and hook up with this guy when you go out, then power to you, girlfriend. Come May, you’ll be leaving the bubble on a good note with some fun memories. Keep doing your thing and having fun!
Other girls might be in a different boat: if you find that you may like this guy more than just a weekend hook-up, then facing summertime might be a little tougher. But this isn’t necessarily a bad thing! If you’re having fun and you like this guy, that’s awesome. Your spring fling should fun, but your summer (be it with or without this dude) should be equally as great. To ensure that, you might want to think about some of the following things with May quickly approaching.
The “G” Word
Like every other college student, you know what the g-word stands for. Although many students deny that it will ever happen, it is inevitable – and in some cases, it may be sooner than we had hoped.
Is your spring fling graduating? Are you graduating?
If your answer to both of these questions is “no,” then you’re in the clear. Just because the school year is ending doesn’t mean that this hookup will, too. If you’ll both be around the Buck next year, your hookup could continue longer than just a spring fling. You two could pick things up in the fall right where you left off.
If your answer to either of those questions is “yes,” then you might be slightly more resentful toward graduation than usual. Graduation is probably the last thing you want to think about if you like this guy. Despite yours or his commencement, your hookup may not necessarily have an end in sight. Next, you should ask yourself about summer plans.
Summer Plans
The saying goes, “Location, location, location.” In this situation, location can play a crucial role at the end of the school year.
Where will you be this summer? Where will he be this summer?
If you will be living near each other this summer, then this is great news. Your spring fling doesn’t necessarily have to end when the school year does, but rather it can potentially develop into a summer romance. Get ready for a hot, hot summer!
If you won’t be living near each other this summer, then this can be a real bummer. This can be a double-whammy, especially if one of you is graduating. Unfortunately, facing these facts can be tough. But it is better to realize all of this now and to keep it in perspective throughout the remainder of the semester than to completely ignore it. It’s good to keep these in mind, but don’t let it stop you from having fun.
The Big Question
There is one question that hasn’t been brought up yet: how does he feel about you? You may or may not know the answer to this question. Some guys can be very straightforward with how they feel about you, be it explicitly with words or implicitly with actions. Others are a bit more mysterious in this department. If you already know the answer, then great. But if you don’t, you should decide if you’re comfortable with not knowing the answer and if it’s worth it to find out. If you like the guy, maybe you do want to know how he feels about you since there isn’t much time left. On the other hand, you might not want to ask a loaded question, especially since there is so little time left. The answer to this question can greatly influence the outcome at the end of the semester. It is up to you to decide if you want the answer.
But this question wasn’t brought up until later for a reason – your feelings take priority in this situation. Don’t let his feelings influence your own.
The Bottom Line
For some, thinking about these questions might help the end of the school year go a little smoother. None of this may even matter to others, in which case, good for you girls.
Regardless of your answers to these questions about the end of the school year, go with the flow for the rest of the semester. The future is unpredictable and you never know what can happen. Even if you only like to hook up with the guy right now, there’s no telling if you’ll end up developing feelings for him within the last part of the year or not. Likewise, you never know if your hookup has been crushing on you and could crank things up a notch in the remaining weeks of the semester. Things happen for a reason and ultimately turn out the way they’re supposed to.
The bottom line is be true to yourself, and do what makes you happy. At the end of the day, a spring fling is supposed to be fun! So go with the flow, and enjoy your spring fling for what it is.