Sexual relationships in the 21st century have adopted a common tendency of blatant disrespect. The intensified and rippling effects of personal insecurities have made their way into our romantic and emotional lives. The fear of intimacy has manifested itself into purposefully pursuing meaningless, vapid, momentary relationships as a means of self-preservation. As a result, f*** boys and girls have multiplied across the board. As if the the ‘hook-up’ culture we have all come to know needed more complications, guys and girls alike have taken to denouncing respectful and considerate tendencies and instead employ radical disrespect. However, there are signs to watch out for that can save a lot of heartbreak, sixteen of them, in fact.
Sign 1: Only wears their hat backwards. Forwards facing hats imply weakness.
Sign 2: Always keeps their read receipts on. Makes sure you know you’re being ignored.
Sign 3: When they are hooking up with you for the first time and you say you don’t have sex on the first time, they make sure to tell you that “I’m not like other girls/guys, I’m different from any girl/guy you’ve ever met.” And you fall for it. Every. Single. Time.
Sign 4: When they actually have feelings for you, they make sure to treat you terribly. They know that is nearly guaranteed to make you want them more.
Sign 5: Goes to a date party/formal with you and hook-ups with a different person in front of you.
Sign 6: Only talks to you when they want to hook up and when it’s convenient. They have to remain in control.
Sign 7: Absolutely only refers to their friends as Bro, Bruh, Fam, or Dude.
Sign 8: Hooks up with your best friend.
Sign 9: Only texts you through snapchat so there is no trace of evidence.
Sign 10: The ‘U up?’ text. Way too much effort to spell out the full ‘you’.
Sign 11: Never lets you sleepover. They live in the mods and you live in Roberts? Hands you your heels, you’re walking home.
Sign 12: Continues to have sex with someone they know has feelings for them. They think if they get attached, that’s their problem.
Sign 13: Even when they’re dating someone, they make sure to maintain relationships with those hook-up buddies. Good thing for them snapchat changed the feature of seeing other people’s best friends.
Sign 14: Tip-toes out of your room post-coutius, texts you later to ask for the Calc homework.
Sign 15: Takes as long as humanly possible to respond to messages. But in that time posts 17 snapstories, instagrams twice, shares a tasty video and a questionable recording of people eating exorbitant amounts of bad food.
Sign 16: Does not foster any genuine connection. NEVER pursues anything other than what is purely physical. Anything even remotely resembling an intimate relationship is to be demolished immediately.
Ladies and gents, we are better than this. We can combat these habits by addressing them when we see them. We have the power to change our culture, and let’s start with the ‘suh dude’, because really, that needs to go.