I have lost count of how many mistakes my friends and I have made with regard to romance in the past few years. College is an inherently tricky time in one’s life, and dating, hooking-up, and being in a relationship can further complicate this time. Here are some common mistakes to avoid:
If someone you hook up with does not return your calls/texts then this person is either busy, or not interested in hooking up with you again.
The best thing to do in this situation:
Let it go and move on sooner rather than later. Calling or texting once is sufficient. If you hear back from this person, great! If not, it’s really okay. You’re young, smart and single, enjoy! You’re in college, and there are many other fish in the sea—ones who will call you back.
The worst thing to do in this situation:
Call every hour, leave countless voicemails and send sad faces via text message or Facebook message. No one likes a stalker. And I know that you’re not a stalker, so don’t act like one.
When going on a date with someone you meet online, plan to meet in-person at a public place. Chances are, the person you’re meeting is not a creepy psychopath. However, wouldn’t you rather be safe than sorry? (Trust me, you would.) There are weirdoes who post fake pictures on dating websites in order to meet young, smart, beautiful women (like you). Be careful.
When you’re in a relationship in college, do not cheat on your boyfriend (or girlfriend). Chances are, he (or she) will find out, and word will spread quickly. Do you really want to be known by your peers as “that girl who cheated on her boyfriend (or girlfriend)”? These are the people who you are likely to see around many, many times in the future. You might even want to date one of these people, and even if the person you cheat with the person who becomes your next boyfriend (or girlfriend), it is not a good way to start a relationship. Think about it like this: how can your new boyfriend (or girlfriend) feel certain that you won’t cheat on him (or her) too? Keep it simple: Make sure that you break up with someone before you begin a new relationship. It’s much, much simpler that way.
I hope this advice was helpful, or at least entertaining. Good luck with finals, everyone!