Dear HC BC,
When I went home from break, I thought I would have an awesome time catching up with my old friends and sharing stories from our first semester in college. My friend group was really, really close all throughout high school, so I was pretty shocked when things changed. My friends just seemed different. They are dressing differently and acting differently, and I don’t really like it. I feel like I don’t even know them! I don’t know if I should talk to them or just move on and focus on my college friends.
Growing Up and Growing Apart
Dear Growing Up and Growing Apart,
Although this can be a weird transition, definitely don’t freak out about it. It is totally normal for people change when they go to college, and there is nothing wrong with that. As corny as it sounds, college is the time for you to figure out who you are. You get more freedom and responsibility, which is going to naturally lead to some changes. Your friends may seem completely different to you, but it is important to remember that you have probably made some changes, too. If you feel more distant, I would recommend talking to your friends. If you’re just upset because they aren’t the same, it might be a better idea to hold off. If your friends are trying out new things, assuming they’re not in any danger, give them some space. If you come across as judgmental, you friends might not trust you in the future, and may feel uncomfortable coming to you for advice. Do your best to be supportive and understand.
HC Love,
HCBC
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