A lot of women face this challenge day after day after day. They meet an attractive guy, hang out with him, sometimes even one on one (oh wow)! But these ungrateful guys decide to make it perfectly clear that they have no interest of dating said woman, much to the very confused woman's dismay. There are various ways this can happen. I will here list the most common three:
1) Guy says to girl something about a relationship, "Like a sister."
2) Guy says to girl something about leaving early for a date with a hottie.
3) Guy tells girl that he pees in the shower.
While many variations of this "Friend Zoning" occurs, these three remain the most obvious and clear. Most women take this as a big fat downer and for the rest of the week, maybe even month, feel quite abandoned and upset at said guy for wasting their time.
An even more common scenario is when said guy decides to continue on the blistering friendship, and the girl most always obliges, hoping to somehow prove that they are definitely girlfriend material. These guys don't mean to string their beautiful, interesting, and lovable friends along, but inevitably it happens.
This article however, is not about why stinks to be in the friend zone. It is about why it is perhaps one of the best inventions for women by men that ever existed, (except probably the tampon).
Being in the friend zone allows 24-7 access to attractive and interesting guys. Your rejecting guy friend is a veritable cargo train for tons of amazing friends who automatically feel comfortable around you. As well, this 24-7 access allows the girl to partake in many activities the girlfriend does not, such as toilet smashing, music jams, and the infamous and much desired mantalk. (Especially if you play your cards right.)
Another great benefit of being in the friend zone is that these men often cannot distinguish between how to treat women, regardless of friends or not. Many guy friends still highly respect their women's opinions (sometimes more than the girlfriend as these special women "get them" on a level their girlfriend "can't seem to understand") And brag about them to other men saying things such as "Omg, my friend Rachel is very good looking and plays guitar hero like a beast" A compliment many guys automatically respond to with attraction. Some guy friends frequently pay for their friends that are girls, even if they aren't dating. They do this because of the glorious gene that doesn't allow them to distinguish between girl friend and girlfriend. The best part about this? The girlfriend may be leery, even outright jealous, but cannot do anything about it! These men generally protect their relationships and sometimes this scenario even helps the man to realize what an annoying girlfriend he has.
The best benefit by far of being in the friend zone is that the girl is valued by the guy as a trusted conduit to the female world. They will often confide in the girl things that they will not confide in the girlfriend, like lady troubles, secret fears, and hidden attractions. The most useful result of this is the famed "best friend revelation" Where the guy realizes that this woman who has been there for him through all of these women, who respects him, who is so much fun to be with, and is beautiful in her own unique way, is actually the better match for him. While this result is somewhat ideal, it is not uncommon.
My advice to the tortured soul who has been friend zoned is to embrace the relationship for exactly what it is: a friendship. Make sure you choose your guy friends wisely (for picking the wrong guy friend could possibly negate this whole article, some guys are just d-bags) and enjoy all the perks of the great, attractive man you are constantly around, and learn as much as you can for the next guy that comes along. That way, you may be pleasantly surprised when the "best friend revelation" happens to you. That is, if you still have feelings for your guy. Remember, he is now also in the friend zone and you can choose whether or not to pull him out.
Happy hunting!
My best friend Patrick and myself wearing mustaches at an Amish restaurant enjoying each other's frienship.
