If you have even one form of social media, you’ve seen them- the relationship goals accounts. They are the accounts on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, and so many more that regale the “relationship goals” that so many people seem to relate to- the “buy me pizza and touch my butt” type text messages, the pictures of cuddling so intense you can’t seem to locate anyone’s hands, and the endless kissing selfies of couples so beautiful they can’t be real. These accounts style their photos as the ultimate relationship goal, the dream of any girl or guy that has half a heart.
Okay, getting a text like this might just be the dream, am I right?
Don’t get me wrong, I love looking through these accounts just as much as the next collegiette. It’s nice to dream about finding someone who would have so many feelings for you that they would pick you out an outfit and take you out on a fancy date, or leave flowers on your doorstep when they know you’re mad at them, or will kiss you lovingly on the forehead so you can take the perfect beach selfie. But these accounts give a false sense of what love is.
Love isn’t constantly cancelling plans with your friends to spend all your time with one person, or forcing the other person to do so. Love is remembering that you aren’t the only important relationship in that person’s life, and that it’s important for them to spend time with people other than you.
Love isn’t perfect dates with trucks full of blankets under the stars. Love is letting the other person know you appreciate them and valuing your time together no matter what the two of you are doing, whether you are cuddling 24/7 or if you’re just in the same room studying.
Love isn’t a location wedding with the perfect dress, the perfect hair, and the perfect flowers. Love is a wedding with all the people you care about, with tons of little screw-ups, but everything turns out okay in the end and the two of you end up happy together.
Real-life love is messy, and crazy, and beautiful, all at the same time.
All in all, what I’m trying to say here is that even though it’s nice to have relationship goals, we should all focus a little more on a real connection with the other person than all the trimmings of being in a relationship that are styled as “relationship goals”. Although real-life relationships can have some of the aspects of those listed on these relationship goals accounts, no one should look at those pages and think that a real-life relationship constantly looks like those dreamy photos. Doing that is only going to let you down. A real-life relationship could never meet the expectations set up in these accounts, and that is 100% okay- your real-life relationship goals should be to love and to feel loved in return. So, go on the relationship goals accounts, and dream of the perfect man proposing to you in the perfect way on the perfect beach. But remember that real life is a lot messier than that, and sometimes, that’s even more beautiful.
Do you have any awesome relationship goals? Let us know in the comments!
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