Though we collegiettes don’t run across campus in our Manolo Blahnik pumps, the infamous Carrie Bradshaw did have some life lessons on how to rule the men when men are trying to rule the world.
I’m sure every girl wishes Carrie had done a college edition of her blog just as much as they wish every Sex and the City episode was on Netflix. In this case however, we have to pretend. Sometimes we all just like to imagine what Carrie would tell us if we were running around campus trying to find a date to take to your friend-that-you-love-to-hate’s housewarming party.
Transitioning from high school to college can be hard enough on a girl, but add in an entirely different dating pool and it’s enough to make a girl want to lie in bed forever and only date a new series on Netflix once a month.
While some things will remain the same for the unattached type like me, other things get complicated. High school was when you dated that cute guy from science class just so you can have a date to the homecoming dance and college is dating that guy from your econ lecture class so you can have a date for your next sorority date function.
Walking around campus, you can overhear some pretty bizarre conversations. A friend of mine shared with me one she heard that was about the differences of dating in high school and dating in college:
“High school girls can wonder how long they will date their current boyfriend before having sex with them while collegiate women will wonder how long they have to have sex with their friend that is a boy before they start dating.”
I’ll admit I laughed quite a bit at that, because someone had finally said it out loud. Though I was the girl that never dated in high school (and still don’t just because I slightly cringe at commitment) all of my friends with serious boyfriends went through the same cycle.
Do you have sex in high school so that you seem ‘in’ and ‘experienced’ by the time you get to college? Or do you wait and lose it on your wedding night? I am friends with ladies in both of these categories and it doesn’t change my opinions of them no matter what side they may choose.
Though my side will remain unknown, I give this: dating or not dating, no matter what side you agree with–slut shaming and prude-calling are inappropriate on either side. Waiting until marriage is a personal choice that I believe should come with more respect, but at the same time, if a girl wants to make the conscious decision to let her number keep climbing until she’s found “the one,” let her do so.
The evolution of a girl from high school to college is made only by trial and error. We can only learn how we want to live our lives through making the mess of mistakes that is known as a day in the life of a college woman. High school sex drama and college sex drama are two completely different worlds, and it is up to each individual woman to discover what she wants to be.
It is in no way a sex education class or after school special, but with the different fraternity parties, biology lectures, and co-ed dorm floors, each woman is free to make as many mistakes as she needs in order to create her own sex-pinion.
It is time we follow in the footsteps of these four fabulous women and make the transition from dating boys like Berger in season five to men like Big in the later (and only ones that matter) seasons and movies.
The best advice I can take from channeling my inner Carrie Bradshaw is that guys and sex and ‘our number’ will never under any circumstances define who we are as a woman. Never forget the quote that really defines who the men are anyways: “Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with.”
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