Self-Love is the Best Love

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I’m pretty sure you’ve heard of the line, “Love Yourself, Girl, or No One Will,” from Crooked Smile by J. Cole.  I’m not trying to sound cocky or anything- but, self-love is the best love, and J. Cole couldn’t have said it any better.  I’m a strong believer in self-love and learning how to love yourself and accepting all of your flaws.

Yes, loving yourself is not easy, it’s something that takes time to happen. You live your best life when you love yourself for who you are and accept your flaws. This means not giving a care in the world about what others think about you!

Everyone has their own definition of self-love, but it all comes down to being happy with yourself and being able to do you. Once you feel comfortable in your own skin, you know how to live your best life without comparing yourself to others. These three things will help guide you into the journey of self-love.

  1. Surround yourself around positivity.

Who needs negativity in their life? I know I don’t! Being around positivity and around people who want to see you do better will motivate you into becoming the best version of yourself. Positivity is contagious so being around this energy will make you feel like you’re at your best. Your loved ones should be there to motivate you and uplift you not bring you down, if that’s the case, get rid of them!

  1. Take it easy.

It’s okay to make mistakes, but don’t let those mistakes bring you down. You have to accept the fact that you are not perfect, no one is! Don’t be too hard on yourself trying to make everything perfect.  Use your mistake as a lesson.  Allow that mistake to help you grow and learn for the next time. Being able to grow from your mistakes makes you a better person overall because you know you’re not going to do it again!

     3. Stop Comparing Yourself.

We all do it.  We go on social media and scroll down our newsfeeds wishing for and wanting the lifestyles of other people. We see someone living lavish and automatically want their life, then we think of what we as individuals are doing wrong. Comparing yourself to others can only bring you down, and it puts you in a negative, bad space and you don’t want that! Just think about all of the great things that you are doing in your life right now, and focus on making them better!

Now you’ve got it!  Three simple tips can help you get started on this journey of accepting you for you and learning to love yourself. Once you feel fully content with yourself it becomes easy when choosing whom you want to be with, and the type of person you want to be.

When going through this journey always remember that you are wonderful inside and out.  Don’t let anyone or social media try to bring you down, or tell you any different! You should always do what makes you happy and don’t let other influence you into living your best life.

 

About The Author

My name is Soraya St. Clair and I am a current sophomore at the Unviersity at Albany. 

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