Self Love

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You are beautiful. You are strong. You are smart. You are enough.

In case you needed to hear these words today.

Knowing and understanding your self-worth is a difficulty for many within our society. Too many people worry if they're pretty enough in relation to society's idea of attractiveness. They worry if they'll ever be anything in life, as they have many people in their lives who aren't so supportive. They worry if anyone will ever like them or if they'll be popular like others they see. They worry that nothing they ever do is good enough. They worry.

I honestly used to be one of those "worriers". It took me a while, but I finally realized that nobody's going to love, appreciate, and/or cherish me the way that I will love, appreciate and/or cherish myself. How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you - Rupi Kaur. This is true. If people see you treating yourself without any sense of regard, do you think they'll treat you better? No one can treat you any better than you treat yourself.

Food for thought: if I asked you to create a list of the things you love, how long would it take before you list yourself?

Self-Love is so important. I want to stress this. Why wouldn't you place yourself on the highest pedestal? This is not to sound cocky in any way, shape or form. It's just about building yourself up, boosting your confidence, and being a better you. In an article by Allison Fallon, she states that if you don’t love yourself, “you’ll have a hard time finding or experiencing love from others. And you won’t be able to truly love anyone until you’re able to love yourself.” You'll be so far removed from yourself and understanding your worth that you'll subtly begin to crave validation from others to make yourself feel worthy, loved, appreciated. This is bad for your health, bad for your mental state, and bad for you, period.

Even through scientific research, self-love is important. According to an article in the Huffington Post, 5 ways of loving yourself that'll also improve your quality of life are 1) accepting yourself can make you happier 2) you'll be more encouraged to achieve your health goals 3) self-compassion will help you with some mental health issues 4) you'll be more motivated to stop procrastinating 5) you'll be lead through adversity.

Other reasons that self-love is important are that you become self-accepting, you look and feel better than ever, your relationships are better whether it be family, friends, or intimate, you avoid self-reproach, and everything around you changes. A happier attitude brings on a brand new you. When you're truly at peace with yourself, love the person you are, acceptant of where you are in life, nothing can phase you. Fall in love with the person you're becoming. Fall in love with you.

"Can't love somebody that do not love themselves.

You are what you choose to be,

it's not up to anyone else.

So be great, be kind,

don't let them dim your light.

A woman like the sun should always be bright." - unknown

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Ayanna currently attends the University at Albany, SUNY. She has a major in English and a double minor in Sociology and Africana studies. She's a firm believer in positivity, self-love and working towards her dreams. She's all about positive vibes and positive energy. You can follow her on Twitter & Instagram @ayannaSZN.