Summer Lovin' or More? How to Know If You Should Go From a Summer Fling to the Real Thing

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How to Turn Your Summer Fling into a Relationship
If you now know that you want your summer fling to be a relationship, keep reading! Her Campus has tips and tricks on how to turn your summer fling into the real thing.

  • Tell Him How You Feel: The best way to turn your summer fling into a relationship is to be honest about your feelings. If you want to be with him, be upfront and give him the chance to reciprocate. If he doesn’t, then it wasn’t meant to be, but you don’t have time during the summer to play games – time is running out!
  • Make Plans: If you want your fling to be something more, make plans for after the summer. “Don’t sit around and hope your summer fling will magically turn into The One,” says Marie Forleo, author of Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You’ll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself! “Plan on taking part in events that you really want to do in the fall months. For some, get an extra ticket. It’ll be a perfect opportunity to invite your summer fling to join.” You’ll both start to see your relationship in a new way once you realize it isn’t just going to last for a limited period of time.
  • Play it Cool: While you can make plans, don’t overwhelm him with visions of your future together and declarations of everlasting love. Instead, show him that you can be a great girlfriend – plan fun dates, let him spend time with his buds, be there for him when he needs you – and soon he will want you to be his!
  • Don’t Panic: Even though the summer is coming to an end, don’t try to rush a relationship. You may feel as though you want to make the transition into something long-term, but it is possible he still needs time to think it over. Introduce the idea and then back off. It will all work out the way it is supposed to.

How to End Your Summer Fling
If the end of summer is near and you know you don’t want a relationship with your summer fling, then be honest in saying that you enjoyed every second you spent with him this summer, but you are not ready for a relationship. Plan to stay in touch and leave for school as friends.
 
Whether your summer fling stays a fling or turns into something more, cherish it for what it is: fun! “The best strategy is to enjoy what you have now without focusing too much on the future,” says Lisa Daily, author of Stop Getting Dumped! All You Need to Know to Make Men Fall Madly in Love With You and Marry “The One” in 3 Years or Less. “Think of your summer romance like you would a vacation: relax and savor every single moment.”
 

Good luck, collegiettes™!
 
Sources:
Collegiettes™ from across the country
Lisa Daily, author of Stop Getting Dumped! All You Need to Know to Make Men Fall Madly in Love With You and Marry “The One” in 3 Years or Less
Marie Forleo, author of Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You’ll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself
Natalie Krinsky, relationship writer
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Allie Duncan is a senior, class of 2013, in the School of Journalism at the University of Missouri. She is specializing in Strategic Communication within the Journalism department, while also pursuing a Textile and Apparel Management minor. In addition to writing for Her Campus, Allie is a member of Kappa Delta sorority - Epsilon Iota chapter, the Publicity Director for Her Campus Mizzou, a Campus Representative/Intern for Akira Chicago, a Contributing Writer for Chicago-Scene magazine and a member of the Society of Professional Journalists. She spent the 2012 summer as an intern at Tory Burch, and the 2011 summer as an intern at Vogue magazine. A Chicago native, Allie enjoys shopping, watching reality television, cupcakes, expensive shoes and reading magazines. She hopes to eventually land a job in fashion public relations while living in New York City, Los Angeles, or Chicago.

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