5 Guys You Shouldn't Date: HC's No-Fly List

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Admit it; your last boyfriend was a loser.  He never returned your calls, broke off dates, and flirted with everything that had a pair of you-know-whats, but you were in love.  Every time he coughed up the $3.95 to take you on an ice cream date, you melted faster than your chocolate chip mint cone. Cue gag.  How could you have been so wrong? You were a sucker, like millions of women across the globe.

The perfect guy is hard to find, but the wrong ones seem to be in total abundance.  Camouflaged with flattery and a spot-on sense of style, he might seem like the one, but he’s not, and you might not know until it’s too late.  To save you the post-break-up cocktails and raw cookie dough, Her Campus is here with our No-Fly List. Beware of these five guys. They are wolves in sheep’s clothing (or a perfectly tailored J. Crew sweater).  Proceed with caution. 

The Romantic Player

Red roses, jewelry, sweet-talking, and romantic dinner dates at the chicest restaurants—this is how the Romantic Player sucks you in. Before you sign your love life away on the dotted Facebook relationship status line, consider this—doesn’t it seem too good to be true? After a few dates, you’re probably feeling like the luckiest girl in the world, but so are three other girls you didn’t know about.

“This happened twice with two different boys,” says Amy*, a music student. “Three girls involved, including me. We were all in love with him, and even though I might have been his current girlfriend, he was sort of in relationships with each one of us.”

It’s easy to get played, and even if you see the warning signs, it might be hard to kick your man to the curb.

“You should check [out] his ex-girlfriends who [he’s] still close to.  Check if it's just pure friendship after all, but sometimes you can't get out of it even though you know what you got yourself into,” she says.

The Romantic Player fulfills your deep-rooted relationship ideals to gain your complete trust.  The minute you feel like a Disney princess, you’re done for.  Jillian*, a 20-year-old writing student, discovered this the hard way when she took a trip to New Jersey with her first long-term boyfriend.  She became suspicious when a slew of her texts were ignored while her boyfriend was en route with their best friend Sara. Still, only after their relationship ended did she put two and two together.

“Sara drove all the way to Vermont [from New Jersey] just to pick him up, and I thought that was so weird. That night, we were all drunk, and he and Sara go in the bathroom for a good fifteen minutes.  I thought it was weird at the time, but again, I didn’t think anything of it. Then, Sara came out, and he gave me the dreaded ‘we need to talk line,’” says Jillian. “I’m definitely sure Sara was in there convincing him to dump me so she could be with him.  I found out a week later that the last week we were at school, he hooked up with her. I logged onto his Facebook because I knew the password, and he had love notes saved from her.  When I found them I was so upset."

While it’s best to avoid these kinds of men, not all romantic guys have something to hide.  But if your sweet-talking Prince Charming only hangs out with you during weird hours, receives mysterious texts he won’t talk about, or is frequently ignoring your calls until hours later, it might be time to send him packing.

The Star

Dating the captain of the football team or the lead singer of campus’s hottest band definitely gives you the cool factor, but is it worth it? These stars of their respective fields are just that—stars. Everyone wants them, and everyone wants to be them, but you can’t achieve campus celebrity status without a lot of social networking (or hard-partying and hooking up).

Mr. Popular is under a lot of pressure; he has to perform, be seen with the right people, and he likely has a fan club of sexy (and much thinner than you) co-eds who admire his “talent.” He’s always the center of attention, which leaves you standing on the sidelines or sitting alone in the back of the club. He’s also short on time and frequently traveling without you. If he can fit you in between away games, training camps, or month long tours, consider yourself lucky.

“It’s a constant battle for attention because you never come first,” says Meagan*, a 21-year-old student who dated a Championship Boxer. “The boys on the team always come first. If they go to a party, they don’t want you tagging along.”

It’s no secret that your leading man will spend most of his time with his guy-pals playing wingman, the bachelor, or the party guy— especially if he’s in a different city every night. Whether it’s in the back of the tour bus or the men’s locker room, these guys always kiss and tell.

“What the boys do is always a secret,” says Meagan. “If they are in the locker room, they definitely are not talking about girls' personalities, but he’ll never tell you what they are talking about. Your love life is constantly on display, but you never know what he’s up to.”

Remember, what happens on tour stays on tour, and after parties are unfortunately exactly like they seem on TV—out of control. He’ll never tell, and you’ll always be wondering what happened.


About The Author

Mariel Loveland is in love with writing. She recently graduated from SUNY Purchase College wtih a major in Creative Writing and a minor in Studio Composition. There she was the editor-in-chief of The Independent, her campus's only print news source. Currently, she runs a blog entitled "Writing the Ship" (http://www.writing-the-ship.bl...) where she documents her life as a recent graduate. When she is not writing words, she can be found writing songs for her punk band and playing guitar loudly in the basements of seedy (and sometimes not-so-seedy) NYC clubs. In the past, Mariel has interned for Lucky Magazine in the Online Editorial Department and Columbia Records as part of their A&R and Digital Research team as well as contributing to other on-campus publications. In her spare time, she dabbles in graphic design, fiction writing, and window shopping on the internet. Currently, she works at Babble.com where she handles all their social media.