It’s the little things
Facebook stalking may seem like a small way of keeping in touch, but sometimes small things go a long way. Alexa, a collegiette™ from James Madison University, said that Facebook is a great way to stay connected. “Whenever I was bored or hadn't talked to them in a while I would shoot them a wall post or comment on a photo or something small that showed I was still thinking about them.” Leaving a simple, “Hey. Miss you. Have a great day!” voicemail on her phone is another great way of letting your BFF know that you’re thinking of her.
Another small way of keeping in touch is sending a card (yes, through the mail) to your friend wishing her good luck on her macro test or just to tell her you miss her. Sending mail is not only a great way to let her know you’re thinking about her, but it’s also a lovely way to brighten her day. My best friend from home sent me a card congratulating me on getting into an organization, and that card is still hanging in my room two years later. Little things like a card or a wall post are great ways to remind your besties that they are your besties, even if you’re miles apart.
Spending time with your high school besties during breaks is some of the best time to chill out after finals and catch up on everyone’s lives. Make a plan to meet up for dinner or go ice skating. Mandy, a University of Pittsburgh collegiette™ and her high school BFFs took full advantage of breaks. “We managed to stay friends by Skyping every once in a while, remembering to visit each other on breaks, but most importantly, we would always have sleepovers where the 7 of us would meet at our one friend's houses. We would watch movies, eat junk food and take turns catching the others up on everything that happened during the semester. All of us felt like we knew what was going on in each other's lives even though we weren't together.”
Visiting each other on campus is another great way of staying close because it allows your friends to see the people and places you talk about all the time. Finding time to visit might be a challenge, but Meghan, an Appalachian State University senior, said that campus visits are what helped her high school friends stay her friends after graduation.
“For me, inviting my high school friends up for visits - and visiting them on their campuses - was crucial. That way, your friends become part of your new life and you become part of theirs. When you tell each other stories, you know the people and places each other is talking about. And they can see and get used to the ways you've changed and the way you act in your new environment. I only did these mutual visits with two of my high school friends, and they're the ones I'm still close with today.” For a complete guide on what to do and what to avoid when visiting your friends’ campuses, check out the Her Campus etiquette guide for visiting and being visited.