Erica Avesian

Love can make us do crazy things, especially the kind of unrequited love that occurs during a one-sided crush. We might think these are innocent behaviors that bring us one step closer to our happily ever afters, but they aren’t. If your crushes are always running for the hills, it’s not him, it’s you. Let Her Campus fill you in on 11 reasons why this may be the case.
 
1. You text him 5 minutes after he gives you his number.

And when he doesn’t answer, you text him again and again and again. “Where are you? Want to hang out? Come get me. Hello. Where are you? Why are you ignoring me?” He’s ignoring you because you’re acting like a crazy person. If he doesn’t answer you the first five times, he’s not going to answer you the sixth time either. No matter how hard you want to try again, remember that double (and triple, and quadruple) texting is a big no-no. Chris, a sophomore at Michigan State University, shares his story: “I went out on a date with this one girl and she legit texted me nonstop wanting to hang out every single day, even when I didn’t respond to some.” Stalker!
 
2. You like every single one of his profile pics. 

You thought your college love life would be like this,

… but it really looks like this (hello, obnoxious frat guys),

At first you like the late night text messages they send you, but after a while, you can’t handle one more booty call...

… because guys suck.

You decide you’re done meeting guys at bars because in all honesty, you just wanna dance!

But a week later, you start feeling kind of lonely so you say to everyone you know,

And you start doing this every time you go out,

Your flirting strategy works and you’re all excited about your new hook-up buddy,

But then you feel like this,

The guy pays. The guy plans the date. The guy asks the girl out. Blah, blah, blah. We can’t be the only ones who are bored with this pattern! We are confident, competent collegiettes who are very capable of asking a guy out without waiting for him to make the first move, so stop playing shy or sticking to tradition. As the saying goes, “When Prince Charming didn't come along, Cinderella went over to the palace and got him.” It’s about time you put the ball in your own court and asked him out. We dare you.

“Is it socially acceptable to ask him out?”

Of course! Over half of the collegiettes we polled have asked a guy out before. A few of us are skeptical about the whole thing, but for the most part we are totally on board with asking a guy out. We polled college guys to see how they feel. The results? All thumbs up for the girl asking the guy out even though the majority said they would prefer to do the asking. “I'm a pretty traditional guy, but a girl asking a guy out shows a ton of confidence and is quite attractive,” says Matt, a 2009 graduate of Saginaw Valley State University.
 

Step #1: Be confident.

You spend hours crafting the perfect text message, adding an extra exclamation point, contemplating whether to use a smiley face or a winky face, and rereading it ten times before hitting send. You’ve waited the appropriate amount of time so you don’t sound too desperate or uninterested and your best friends gave you the okay. Now all you have to do is wait for his response. You stare at your phone until it lights up, but the only new message you see is from Mom. So what went wrong? Her Campus talked to the guys to learn about the texts they dread receiving from girls. Listen to our texting advice and start being a smarter texter.

1. Don’t send this: “Heyyyyyy”

Extra letters are annoying and unnecessary; guys don’t like it when you’re constantly saying “hiii,” “What’s uppp?” or “Goodnightttt.” Tyler*, an Oakland University senior, says, “stuff like heyyyyyyyyy is fine every once in a while with me, but when every text has extra letters that’s kind of annoying.”

Instead, send this: “How’s it going?”

Guys don’t need extra letters to feel special (that’s a girl thing). You don’t want to sound whiny or overeager or like a middle school girl when texting him, so stick to spelling words with the normal amount of letters at least the majority of the time. If you’re afraid “hey” will make him feel like he does when he receives any other one-word response, put together a short and sweet line that expresses what you want to say like “Want to get drinks?” or “Let’s study together  today.” Reserve the extra letters for times when you really need to emphasize something, or if you’re ready to paaaaartyyyy.