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 Dear Betty: Breaking Up is Hard to Do12/10/2011 |
Dear Betty, I've been out with this guy for a couple times, but I'm not just feeling it. The problem is, he thinks we're on the road to being Facebook official. He's a nice guy, but I don't know how to let him down gently. It's Not Me, It's You You could do that whole not-responding-to-texts thing, but as a collegiette™, I'm thinking you probably want to be a bit more mature than that. I would advise you to be honest, but be mindful of how you tell him. There's no reason for him to have his feelings hurt if you don't feel a connection or any chemistry, but make sure you're firm and clear that your romantic relationship is over. If you really don't have the courage to do that, well, maybe this is a time to pull out the "Busy Collegiette™" card. Hope that helps! Love, Betty |
 Dear Betty: I'm Playing Cinderella11/29/2011 |
Dear Betty, My roomate is pretty messy and doesn't really help with any of the room chores. We live in a double, it's a tight space and I'm always the one doing all the cleaning. I'm fine with her being messy I just don't know how to get her to start helping out a little with the cleaning. Any advice? Cinderella Messy roommates are not always the best, but this is a problem that can be fixed. To help give her the hint that you would like her to help you clean up, clean around her. This might make her see the chores you are doing and she will then offer to help. If that does not work then just politely ask her to clean the shared space either with you or create a schedule where you alternate all your chores. As a last resort, you can always inform your RA of the situation and together the three of you can probably sit down and talk about this. I hope that helps! Love, Betty |
 Dear Betty: My Roommate is Being Obnoxious11/8/2011 |
Dear Betty, My roommate goes to bed at awkward times such as very early in the evening and turns the light off. She hides under the covers and pretends to sleep but in reality she's texting. This forces me and my other roommate sneak around the room quietly to accommodate her "sleep" needs. How do I fix this situation? I don't want to be rude and tell her she can't sleep, but I don't want to be obnoxious and turn the lights and go about as if she wasn't there. Sincerely, Frustrated Freshman Dear Frustrated, With this situation I think it would be necessary to talk to your roommate. Be nice about it but bring up that she is clearly texting under the covers and if it would be possible to still keep the lights on while she is texting. It's very inconvenient for you to have a roommate who goes to sleep early and is not actually sleeping. Talking to her is the best option, but if you feel uncomfortable just talk to your RA and he/she might be able to mediate the conversation that you have. Best of luck! Love, Betty |
 Dear Betty: Reconnecting with Friends Who Went Abroad10/25/2011 |
Dear Betty, One of my friends studied abroad last semester, and now that she's come back, it seems like she's been awkwardly avoiding me. It feels like so much has happened since she's been gone that she isn't really a part of my life anymore, and vice versa. Do you have any advice on how to patch up our lapsed friendship? Sincerely, Friendship Gone Abroad Dear Gone Abroad, Being in the process of losing a close friend is always extremely difficult. For some, going abroad is a way in which they can change who they are for the better or worst, kind of like what people do when they come to college in general. It seems that for your friend, going abroad was a time in which he/she changed his/her persona on things. It sucks that he/she just ignores you and is not a part of your life anymore. You can try and talk to him/her about these changes that you have seen and how unhappy you are not having them as a friend. Unfortunately, I do not know how well this will work out cause it seems as if your friend already has his/her mind made up. Just remember that if they truly were your friend, they would not be ignoring you. Think about how important this friendship is for you. Love, Betty |
 Dear Betty: Advice for the Broke Collegiette10/11/2011 |
Dear Betty, Between shopping for groceries, buying school books, and transportationfees, I'm feeling the strings tighten on my purse a little! A friend wants me to go to a fancy dinner with her in the city, but I just don't have that kind of money right now. How can I get out of this sticky financial awkwardness? Sincerely, Cash-Strapped Collegiette™
Money is an issue for the majority of college students, so you are probably not the only one in this situation. Instead of going to dinner maybe you can ask your friend if they want to do one of the many things NYC has to offer for free and then grab dinner at a Chipotle or Shake Shack. By doing this, you are spending money on transportation for the whole day compared to an hour or two at dinner. You also will be able to take part in an activity in the city as well. Look at for offers on many different activities each week that you can do for free. Last year my friends and I went kayaking for free and had a blast! There are also many other cheap things that you can do in the city as well, such as rush Broadway shows for 20 bucks. Or if you feel awkward making a different suggestion, offer to go to Arthur for dinner. Something else to consider is that during Restaurant Week in the city they offer a fixed menu at many of the highly ranked restaurants in the city for a cheaper price, maybe suggest going to that fancy dinner during restaurant week. Hope this helps! Love, Betty |
 Dear Betty: How Do I Balance My Relationship and Friendships?10/1/2011 |
Dear Betty, Over the summer, I started dating this great Fordham guy. (I know, I know, but they're out there, promise!) Even though we were both interning, summer hours left us plenty of time to hang out and build our relationship. Now that school's started, I'm completely OVERWHELMED. I'm interning, have a full course load, and am super involved on campus. Basically, I spread myself to thin. I haven't even gotten a chance to hang out with most of my friends! I still want to devote time to my relationship, but I don't know how to balance it all. What do I do, Betty? Sincerely, Worried in Walsh ------------------------------------------- Dear Worried, It is important to note that having a boyfriend should not take away time with your friends. If so, it can lead to many problems with your friends, since well they knew you before you were going out with your boyfriend/girlfriend. To fix that problem, try and figure out a schedule in which you become aware of all the free time that you might have. Since you will most likely not be as busy over the weekend, try to schedule time with your boyfriend/girlfriend then, especially during the day. Try and see if you can spend one night a weekend with your friends, maybe even your boyfriend/girlfriend could hang out with you then as well. As for your homework problem, during the week try and schedule time to see your boyfriend/girlfriend around meals. It is something that you both have to do during the day so you can maximize your time that way. Hope that helps! |
 Need Advice? Ask Dear Betty9/18/2011 |
Her Campus Fordham is excited to announce the launch of our new advice column, written by an anonymous Fordham student, Dear Betty! Hello Fordham! My name is Betty, and I am here to help you with whatever you need. My excellent advice might be able to get you through any problems you may have. This can be what to wear on your next date, a problem with a friend, or even a problem about school; I'm your woman! I am a twentysomething student here at Fordham and I understand the everyday problems girls might have. I love to shop and find new things to do here in NYC. You can look to me for advice because we all know that it is better to verbalize our problems instead of keeping them to ourselves. Hope to hear from you soon! |
