Andrew Bensch

Do you ever find yourself shrugging your shoulders and settling on the "boys will be boys" conclusion? Real Live College Guy Andy is here to show you that mature men do (in fact) exist. He has an uncanny ability to sort out the good guys from the bad apples and is here to bring you the best in college love advice.

So, I went to this party and met a guy. We were both pretty drunk. We talked for a while and ended up making out for a bit. We exchanged numbers before we left. The thing is, I'm not usually the random hook-up kind of person, this was a fluke sort of night. Should I text him? How long is appropriate to wait? Or should I just wait for him to text me? – Tipsy at Temple

Tipsy,

Many of us text our love interest within hours or even minutes of a date or hook-up (well, at least I have and it wasn't received poorly, she was actually quite flattered). The concept of having to wait 'til the next day to call someone pre-dates the invention of texting. This is the 21st century and girls should feel free to break the dating rule that they can't text a guy first. We guys like not having to initiate conversation, it takes the pressure off of us.

Do you ever find yourself shrugging your shoulders and settling on the "boys will be boys" conclusion? Real Live College Guy Andy is here to show you that mature men do (in fact) exist. He has an uncanny ability to sort out the good guys from the bad apples and is here to bring you the best in college love advice.

I'm a pretty shy girl. So, I've always held on to this idea of a Prince Charming in shining armor to come rescue me from the bubble I've placed myself in. My question is do guys even give the time of day to girls who are shy or is it a lost cause and I should just put on armor and try and save myself? – Shy Girl at Syracuse

Shy Girl,

I hate to break it to you, but life is not like a Disney movie. Now I don't know what has made you so shy or what experience you do have in the dating world, but it definitely sounds like you have to put yourself out there more.

That said, doing so shouldn't be a bigger deal than it actually is. Just get involved with your school, answer questions in class, join clubs, hang out in the quad, go to school performances, games, anything that will get you out and mingling with people!

Do you ever find yourself shrugging your shoulders and settling on the "boys will be boys" conclusion? Real Live College Guy Andy is here to show you that mature men do (in fact) exist. He has an uncanny ability to sort out the good guys from the bad apples and is here to bring you the best in college love advice.

I've hooked up (and by hook up I mean heavy making out) with this guy four times now and I am confused by his intentions. He knows that I'm a virgin and plan on staying that way until I'm in a relationship, but he has shown no interest in being in a relationship. The thing is though, he continues to want to hook up with me and tries to invite me over as much as he can. We've talked about it, and he says he isn't trying to take away my virginity and just likes hooking up with me, but knowing how guys are, this doesn't make sense. When I do hook up with him, I don't sense that he is trying to have sex with me, but he tries to get me to do other things. He is always telling me how he likes who I am, my personality, intelligence, humor, and that he's very attracted to me, but I just don't understand why he doesn't try to date me then. I've settled on the conclusion that he doesn't know what he wants and is in a confusing limbo of trying to remain single and have fun in college, but also really wanting me (he gets jealous when I'm with any other guy). If he says he usually just has FWB, why does he keep inviting me around knowing I won't do that? – Lost at Lafayette

Lost,

Do you ever find yourself shrugging your shoulders and settling on the "boys will be boys" conclusion? Real Live College Guy Andy is here to show you that mature men do (in fact) exist. He has an uncanny ability to sort out the good guys from the bad apples and is here to bring you the best in college love advice.

I'm in my first year of college and have managed to become friends with two guys. We have every class together, as it is a small program. Lately, I've been wondering if maybe the other guys in class might think I have something going on with one of my friends. We sit next to each other every day, have been called out for laughing with each other during class (oops!), and he lent me his sweater in class before when I was chilly. He's a cute guy, but we really are just friends (he has a girlfriend), and I think he might be interfering a bit with my chances with some of the other guys in class. They might be hesitant to approach me if they think I'm involved with another guy right? Any way to let my friend know he's sorta cramping my style? – Friendly at FAMU

Friendly,

Yes, a lot of guys will be hesitant to go up to you if you're always with the same male companions. It is just the nature of the beast. Nobody wants to be rejected and if the girl appears unavailable, then chances are some guys won't even bother.